God says to honor your mother and father.?

Question

How do you do this when they were abusive. Is it okay that I cut them them out of my life. It brings me sadness to do so, but nothing has helped.

Answer 1

God also knows you tried to be a good daughter and be good. He will judge accordingly.

Answer 2

This answer is for an adult. It is okay to step away from the relationship with your parents if it is an abusive one. But what you do next is important for healing and becoming free from the wrong messages that have been given to you by your parents through their abuse of you. You didn't deserve it and now live with the emotional burden of their mistakes. There will be a time when you will be ready to renew a relationship with them. Honoring your parents is done many ways namely living a life that is not filled with destructive mistakes. Ephesians 6:4 Fathers do not provoke your children to anger.... this is the next verse.

Answer 3

God didn't "write" that specifically to you, sugar. And besides, he didn't even have parents.

But your beliefs are your beliefs.

Anyways, If your parents were abusive, there is absolutely no shame in cutting them out of your life. They treated you with little or no respect, and here's something from an even wiser point of view.

" Treat people the way you want to be treated."

Don't you dare feel bad about trying to relieve that stress by not doing that. Perhaps you could try actually confronting your parents and letting them know that you'd like to follow that commandment, but are unable to seeing as how they didn't treat you with any respect.

It's a deep issue. Good luck. :)

Answer 4

i didn,t get it... abusive means???

there are parents who try discipline their wards...if that,s what you are talking... i guess it's not called abusive.
however, I have seen really abusive parents in India.Though very unfortunate,we have parents here under total stress and pressure. more than the child they worry about the compettative world outside waiting for their children. so when the children fail to their expectations... they turn abusive

it is also a fact that now-a-days children are showpieces...whose child goes for the guitar classes and whose child own a medal in the sports.in which school the child is studying... all these matters while maintaining their standard in the society. they forget that if a child ic born normal with no exceptional qualities...its certainly not his fault

yes, god certainly might have told that parents are to be honored...its very true either,that children are god sent gift to mankind.
respect is for everyone, despite his age, his caste, his relegion or his job. he is supposed to be respected...

i remember once i heard that at the age of five .. the kid is supposed to be loved...at ten he is supposed to be punished and at the age of fifteen he is to be befriended.

as far sa you are concerned, try talking to them about it.let them know..what you are thinking..and let them know what you want.. if still they continue so... you will have choices..for God certainly allows people to live with peace and love..AND YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO LOOK FOR LOVE IF PARENTS COULD NOT LOVE YOU,

Answer 5

Yes u have to honor your father and mother, u can cut them out of your life, if they are abusive, but do not dishonor your parents.

Answer 6

Yes it is okay to cut them out of your life. For your own health and safety I suggest you do that. Forgive as best you can, and understand that they are human and imperfect. Only open yourself back up to them if they show true remorse, understanding and change for the pain they caused you.

By learning from their mistakes and not repeating those mistakes on your own children is how you honor your parents.

Answer 7

in Tamil, a South Indian language we are taught the following
philosophy & made as our breath.Matha, Pitha, Guru, Deivam.i.e.,
you should respect & worship Mother, Father, Teacher and lastly the God,in that order. So Hinduism, which is well identified with Joint Family system of life, mostly do not face such problems.

Answer 8

God abuses mankind through storms, tsunamis, earthquakes, volcanoes, floods, etc. Does mankind decide to cut of from God. Our parents are just like God. They may be abusive but they do love you, don't they? They care for you, strive for you, always worry about your future. Just one fault and you wanna move off?

Tolerance and patience are the weapons of such emotional wars. The stronger your weapons, the greater your chances of winning.

God bless you...

:-)

Answer 9

Mother and father are abusive for the welfare of children only , this thing Icame to know when i came out of the house in the year 1990 march 1st till to day i can not face my parents because of the mistake i did 17 yars back /.DON'T leave your parents dear try to uanderstand them and try to know why they are abusive in your matter reveal your self
what are the mistakes you are doing daily and repeetedly
SIT cool and reveal every thing about yourself then automatically you will get sollution ok

MATRUDEVO BHAVA
PITRUDEVOBHAVA
ACHARYADEVOBHAVA THIS SLOKAM IS OUR I.E INDIAN CULTURE AS FAR AS MY KNOWLEDGE IS CONCERN OK


BYE

WITH hope that you will not leave your parents

Answer 10

We do not have any right to measure anyone. In the Gita, it is written that you do your work, do not expect anything. God will give you in consideration of what you have done. As per Hinduisum, Mother and Father are our Guru. Respect them.

Answer 11

I don't know the actual reason for saying so but you migh be having a step father or a step mother. Else it would not have been happened. If it is not so then you would be some where wrong in your behaviour, acts, manners etc..