I met this guy 3 years ago through work. We were totally different people, me shy, him full of confidence. At the time I wasn't really into him as he was immature, but he liked me alot and i thought i should give it a go when he asked me out. He was my 1st boyfriend so i was inexperienced, and it only lasted a week because he was so hopeless at keeping in touch, i couldn't read him at all and i didn't know him very well so i dumped him. 3 years later we are really close friends but i know he still likes me. Alot. I have had numerous boyfriends since and he has always been there. Lately I have been thinking about him as more than a friend but it's not as easy as just telling him. We always argue, he still SUCKS at communication, we have completely different veiws on alot of things (from politics to fashion), and he doesn't get me when i'm not feeling 100% (he's always happy aparantly). Sometimes he drives me nuts! But I cant stop thinking bout him. Will a relationship ruin what we have?
2007-03-07 15:18:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't say it would. but if you ended it the first time do to lack of communication and he still has problems with that. then he hasn't changed any and you will be back to square one. some guys lack big time in that department and if you can handle that. him not calling when he says he will etc. i would say you could try it out again. but if it's something that you ain't really looking for your better off just as friends and let it as that. you know the kinda guy your looking for so stick to that. you seem like you kinda feel guilty from what happen the first time since you never really gave if a chance to prove to you. there is reasons why that it happened like that. if he drives you nuts now and your only friends can you image how bad he will get on your nerves being a item. just stay friends!
2007-03-07 15:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by wishstar28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. And he may be hopeless. I met someone who was like this when he was 42 years old and I was 33. I felt I had to walk him through every step of maintaining a relationship and he accused me of manipulating him. Knowing that he is a genious, I find it highly unlikely I could. He just didn't want to learn new tricks. Unless he's an idiot savant or something, which I also doubt. If they need fixin', let em do it and come back when they're done improving themself. You shouldn't have to teach him how to behave in an adult, or young adult, relationship. He should've learned how to communicate during his childhood.
2007-03-07 15:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by jam_please 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea. It wouldn't be a healthy relationship for you two because you need some growing up to do. Be friends for now and don't expect. You're laid back and down to earth and he possesses great confidence and energy. It's a great love connection, so get to know him more and if it's meant to be it will. Let him know you still like him but don't force a man into anything he's not ready for.
2007-03-07 15:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by LT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant say exactly whats going on just from reading that paragraph but it sounds similar to something ive been through. you may have something between you two or it could be like me a few years ago when i thought i liked this guy alot, i really thought i was falling for him. it turns out after i really sat and looked at the situation that i 'liked' him because through all the bf's i had he was always there for me. i went through bf's pretty frequently but he was always there for me. just relax and think is he a really good friend or is he bf material for you? best of luck...
2007-03-07 15:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by sarah s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RE: love hate friendship/courting? ok so my pal and that i've got a love- hate friendship!! we can't stand one yet another and we imitate one yet another.. we litterally sound like we're 4 it's ridiculous! I advise he's positioned frogs down my back two times he dumped a bucket of water on me (for no reason!) and he's thrown dried airborne dirt and dust...
2016-09-30 09:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. There is a difference between being best freinds and being in a relationship.
2007-03-07 15:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by lonewarrior 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to try and fail than to look back in years and wonder " what if".
2007-03-07 15:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by canadaguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋