Controlling mother. How do I repair this?

Question

When I turned 17 the control started. I was a senior in high school and I wasnt allowed to go anywhere. I became very withdrawn and lost all my friends. She used to hang up the phone on my friends and tell them that I wasnt there. I went off to college then when I came home on spring breaks she used to walk down the stairs every couple of hours to see if I was there. When I was 20 just about had it and then I went out anyway. She then threw my stuff on the lawn because I was doing my own thing. She was treating me like a 10 year old. I almost quit school because I just wanted to move out. As I got older it got worse. She blocked the door from letting me leave. I ended up going on antidepressants because she made me feel so depressed. I had a sister a year older and didnt give her a problem. I came back home from college at 22 and have had problems mentally ever since. I tried counseling but she went only once. She tells me now that I was born with depression.

Answer 1

If you're still living there, move out. Suck it up and get a job so you can afford an apartment on your own. Search for roomates so the rent's cheaper. Rent.com. Go to counseling, but get off the anti-depressants. Your mom wants to have control of you, and you cannot let it happen anymore. It's ridiculous, sugar. I went through the same old routine with my mom and I moved out at sixteen. She and I now have the best relationship ever. Write your mother a letter, telling her that you are an ADULT and demand respect, so that you can pay her the same. Let her know that the think you yearn for most is her friendship, her understanding, and her trust.

Answer 2

Believe me, I know what you're talking about, what you went through and still going through.........My Mother was the same way, but 10 times worse. There's nothing you can about her because she's set in her ways, had her own reasons for being the way she was and she will never change. It's not only that she is controlling and overbearing, but insecure as well. The best thing for you to do is to gain enough strength for yourself and move forward. Turn the negatives into positives. Learn from her mistakes. You have what it takes be a better person. Don't let it ruin the rest of your life. It's not too late for you to make the most out of it. Fight for your own freedom, independence and happiness. I know she's your Mother, but sometimes, we have to accept people for who they are and if we don't like it, then we are not obligated to get along with them. Keep your distance for the peace if necessary.

Answer 3

What she is doing to you is mental abuse. If possible, you need to put distance between you both and live your life as you want it to be.
You are not the problem, she has done this for years and it's cruel.
I realize you love your mom because she is your mom, but she is not being a proper mother to you. Don't worry about what she says caused your depression, you know the truth and arguing will solve nothing.
You are now an adult, you need to make the decision that will make your life the best it can be. If you need to say more, you can email me and I will answer. Take care.

Answer 4

Mothers are not such. When you will acquire that stage you will also behave in the same manner as you are mom's true daughter.

Answer 5

how can baby born with depression???? anyways you should just keep going to see the doctor and talk to her... And remember you the youngest so that why maybe she does that...

Answer 6

if fighting her doesn't work then u should try what she wants you to, after you finish college or have enough money to support yourself, then move out. right now u should ask your sister for help.

Answer 7

control your self. your mom want your good future