2007-03-07 15:14:24 · 10 answers · asked by chrystal w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Me and my husband have been together for 7 years. We have a 4 year old and an 8 mon. old. When we got together i was a size 5 an now after 2 kids I have gained a little (NOT A LOT OF) weight, But i'm looseing it again. He likes to look at porn on the inter. But all he wants me to do is oral sex so that's not the problem, He gets that when he wants!!! He just don't seem interested in me. and i don't have any little nity's any more. I just don't now what else to do. no one will watch our kids for us, cause the baby is on a machine an they don't want the trouble if something would happen to him.
2007-03-07 15:57:57 · update #1
hmm...not too many details so i'm going to assume here...are you an older couple? or been together for many years? maybe things seem old or boring with your sex life...start out by going out on a romantic date (like before you got married) get dressed up and look sexy for him. maybe you don't normally wear anything provocative or revealing, but surprise him. let him know you're still interested and want him to be too. maybe have a few drinks. come home and YOU initiate the next step sexually. (maybe you're more conservative and wait for him normally) alot of couples that have been together for along time don't do much fore-play after so long. try it out. just enjoy touching/rubbing/caressing/kissing each other. put on some sexy lingerie or even just one of his long tshirts with nothing else. just have fun laughing and being sexual...like when you're a teenager. try new things....new positions/techniques/activities/clothing/games...give him massages..start from the shoulders and work your way down...and around, using baby oil. when he comes home from work offer to rub his back while wearing something sexy and just let it go from there.try watching an adult movie together, (if you haven't really done this before, it may seem a little awkward at first or wierd...try watching a few by yourself! theres nothing wrong with it and it'll probably turn him on knowing you like them too! )watch one and act it out.
2007-03-07 15:29:44 · answer #1 · answered by tiff_n_a00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I will give you the short message on it. If you are overweight it will kill the sex. It will go without months or even years before you can have it again. I think if you are having a weight problem you need to work on it and work it hard and not be fickle. Eat healthy and see a diet physician. If you are thin then pick up some books on sex and do not be ashamed. People buy them everyday and sex is natural between one man and one woman. If you prefer buy them online if you shop with a debit or credit card and you know how to use one. I think that you need to take your time and do these. Barnes and Nobles is usually a good place to start for books. Oh yes and one other thing search the cover carefully and the description. http://www.bn.com
2007-03-07 23:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
the only thing i could think of is make all day foreplay. Tease him all day, touch him and just act really sexual all through the day. Then maybe he will pick up on these hints and it will get his motor running (or he'll think you're strange)
oh as the person said, do some lingerie shopping together.
Tell him you'll do anything he wants you to?
i wish i could help more but i dont know?
i just read what the dude below said, basically if you're not skinny, you're sexually unattractive. i've never heard anything more b.s in my life.
2007-03-07 23:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing drop 10. at least. More oral probably wouldn't hurt, either.
2007-03-07 23:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by T.Wang! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm an older teen, but I bet he'll get aroused if you start "toying" with him if you catch my drift. I'm not tying to sound crude, I'm just saying if you touch sensually in "certain areas" he'll get into it
2007-03-07 23:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try linergie; french maid outfits make guys go gah gah. if it doesnt work, he's either gay or having an affair.
sorry id try to help more but i dont know much bout ur situation.
2007-03-07 23:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by kathofrin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to go shopping with you at Victoria's Secret!
its a subtle way to get what you want from him without blurting it out to him
2007-03-07 23:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he wants to get another girl involved with u both i bet his hearing and eyes open right up mine did lol
2007-03-07 23:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by luckylovelee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay ill say....cuz im sure youll get alot of 'weird' replies anyhow....
One time...i remember ...his performance was not up to par....and he was caughing like mad that night...and he had a sore knee. I turn to him as we both layed there...i said....
"Sweety...can you do me a favour and turn around"
he looked at me funny "Why?"
"Cause im getting ready to masturbate myself" i said, as i displayed where my hand was.....
He wouldnt turn around,,,just watched me dumbfounded...for a little bit.....
then it was fire-works!!!!!!!! he went nutz!!!!!!!!
evil....but works!!!!!
2007-03-07 23:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by La-La 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give more comfort
2007-03-07 23:17:58 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋