Last night I was playing with my 21 month old daughter and it hit me.....I love her, more than anything in the world, so much it moves me to tears, so much I would sacrifice my own happiness to see her smile, to hear her laugh. She's everything in the world to me. I'm not happy with much else in my life, but she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. She's so smart and beautiful and caring and sweet, and of course I would say this, I'm her mommy, but I can't get over this feeling. I mean, I've always loved her, I would have done anything for her from the moment I found out I was pregnant, but never in my life have I imagined being able to love someone that much. I'm not an overly emotional person, I almost never talk about loving someone, but with her, I can't help it. Is this a normal mom reaction or am I missing so much else in my life that I'm projecting all the happiness I have onto her? I don't want to burden her with any more than life might give her.
2007-03-07 15:10:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh my goodness, you're all so kind, it's making me cry. I'm so happy I'm not alone in this!
2007-03-07 15:32:32 · update #1
Mate - I understand completely - my son is so perfect there arent words to explain it. Since he came along, everything I do revolves around him - whether its working to pay bills or busting my back in the sun all weekend to finish building his cubbyhouse (nearly have too!) Everything he says and does makes me happy. Nothin beats it when he waves me off to work in the morn, asking if Ive got my shoes and lunch & yells out Daddys home when I get back!
2007-03-07 16:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I can really feel where you are coming from. I saw myself in the same position when my twins were young. No I don't normally consider myself and over emotional person, however at some point I realized that my children were my LIFE and that I don't know how I came to love them so much that it could hurt. I thought at one point that it was hormonal, but I really have this special bond with my children and they are now ten. Having them seems to have made my life complete in a way that I was not aware of. Yes I love my husband too, but I really love my children. When they were little I used to write letters to them to let them know how I felt. I wanted them to know how much I loved them and each time I wrote I teared up thinking that I could not live without them. I don't know if this is normal or that I had my children at a later time in my life where I appreciate having them more than I would have if I had them at an earlier age. My mother tells me that I have a strong mother instinct and always have. Growing up without a father figure and taking care of two brothers maybe helped me for my own family. She thinks it made me stronger and more caring. In any event, I love my children dearly and if I could take away any of their hurts, I would without a thought. If it means I am overprotective, then I am that too.
After reading your question, I feel comforted. You sound like a wonderful mother and a strong woman. It's nice to know that there are others out there that care that much too! Enjoy your daughter and make sure that you spend as much time possible with her and throughout her school years. Having a close mother that cares can help with the hard knocks that life deals us. My mother is my best friend still and I know that I am a better person because of her. Take care and I wish you the best in life.
2007-03-07 23:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by San Jose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal. I've always heard that you can never love your mother as much as she loves you. I know that my mom would stand in front of a train if it meant that I would live. In my teenage years it was awful, I couldnt understand why she cared so much what I did. But now that I'm old I completely understand.
That bond you have with your daughter is from God. Cherish it and bask in it. One day she will understand how much you care for her, and she'll be a better person because of it. Relish today, relish your time with her, when she hits 15 you may not be able to get all the snuggles you want all the time, so take advanatge now!...They grow up so fast ;)
2007-03-07 23:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by LawyerBarbie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are feeling. My daughter just turned 16 a couple months ago and I still love her more than my own life.
Kids are the greatest gift we will ever receive, treasure them and take lots of pictures. One day you will blink and off they go into marriage and a new exciting life of their own. I will tell you all that my daughter Britney is the most wonderful person I will ever know. I am blessed to call her my daughter. BMB
2007-03-08 00:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that not every parent feels this way! When my son does something new I find myself so excited to tell people who probably couldn't care less. lol. Enjoy your daughter and when she is grown and has her own children she will have a wonderful childhood to look back on and be the same way with her children.
2007-03-08 10:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by JENNIFER C 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal for you to love her with all of your human fiber. That child is a part of you. You carried her inside your body for 9 months and you took care of yourself so she would be healthy. There is nothing on earth that can compare with the love a mother feels for her child! I hope you will always feel that special love for your daughter.
2007-03-08 01:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by Keep it Simple 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where would your 21 month daughter be with out you. Relax this is natures way of protecting the young. As she grows and becomes more independent, you will too.
2007-03-07 23:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by kitchenheatindex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means your a good mommy! I wish all mommies were as good as you! Yes, I feel like that too. I hold my kids in my arms (my daughter doesn't let me much anymore) and I study them. They are little miracles...so smart, so wonderful. And I thank God every day for their lives and that He lets me raise them. What a blessing, what a joy!
2007-03-08 00:32:13 · answer #8 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pretty normal to me!
They say a girls best friend is her mom...
I have a god daughter who has the same effect on me.
It only gets better.
Sadly, my baby has cancer and may die...
That's when it really hits you!
I asked her if she knew I loved her.
She said I hope so after 13 years!
2007-03-07 23:17:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, our kids are cool, mine truly made we want to be a better person. And I realized that we are born selfish for good reason too, we need to take care of ourselves, before we can take care of our kids. In fact, I find that the more my wife and I take care of ourselves (happy, unstressed, having fun), the better our kids seem to be (happy, unstressed, having fun).
2007-03-08 01:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by CrookedGrin35 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋