I have been with him for almost 3 years but I can't be with him anymore. His temper is getting out of control. I love him but I can't handle the relationship right now, I think I just need some space. I'm scared of telling him b/c I know he loves me to death, and if I break up with him he will be so hurt, and I dont want to hurt him, but I cant take it anymore. What should i tell him? What should I do??
2007-03-07 15:10:15 · 22 answers · asked by yolyr1012 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound very sure of yourself here. That means you need to be direct. Don't be ambiguous and say things like:
"I need some space"
"I'm not feeling this is going well right now"
"I'm confused"
This would confuse him, drag the whole thing out, and make it agonizing for both of you. Very importantly, tell him this is what YOU want and need. Don't make it about his temper. Make it about your happiness.
Say "I want to break up." Then explain why very concisely.
If he "loves you to death," this will hurt him no matter what. If you're willing to keep yourself unhappy just to avoid putting him through normal break-up woes, go ahead. I don't advise it though.
2007-03-07 15:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are going through some things right now and that you need a break from the relationship. Be nice about it but don't give him false hope. You say that his temper is getting out of control so make sure you have someone close by while you are telling him this, or tell him over the phone. I hope this helps.
2007-03-07 23:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Phyll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel like you should sit down and have a nice little talk with him. like for one, y'all can work it out. listen, you already said you love him....think about it, he can get anger management for his temper or what ever his problem might be. and if he loves you he will be willing to get himself the help he needs. he can make you happy only if he first get his self on track. i hope you understand from my point of view because i am dealing with an issue similiar to it. see you done said yourself that you dont wanna hurt him. well dont. oh and if you need some space from him....do that. but you gotta figure out which kinda space ya need. if you need that forever space then yeah go ahead and break up. but if you need like maybe a month at the most to clear your mind and refresh then get back to the relationship then do that then okay. but whatever you may or may not do, just think long and hard about rather or not you want him in your life or out your life. and ask your self you believe he can make you happy if he gets control of his temper? do you believe he will ever ever ever hurt you?! he probably would wanna die if somethng happened to you. he would probably even give his whole life up just to save your life. so think about it before you let it go.
2007-03-08 00:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by poptart277 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know gently that his temper is causing problems in the relationship. Tell him you just need some space, that isn't the same as breaking up.
2007-03-07 23:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. Let him know that you still love him, but you just need a break from his temper, then go on vacation. When you come back, call him and visit him, and if you still feel like theres a spark get back with him. Just be on "hold"
2007-03-07 23:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by mo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him plain and simple that he has a problem and that until he fixes his problem you cant be with him because he is not only hurting himself but he is hurting you. Chances are he doesnt realize the toll that it is taking on you! Try talking it out first... if he doesnt feel the same tell him that you guys should "temporarily" separate. Worse case is that he begins to hate you... but if that happens then he doesnt deserve you in the first place! Just give it your best shot! Dont be afraid... if he loves you like you say he does then he will try to understand and he will fix his problem.
2007-03-07 23:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by christcansaveyou2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darl if you just walk out on him he'll be more hurt that you couldnt tell him then you walking out on him.
There is no easy way 4 breaking up with someone. You just gotta sit down with him and tell him straight. Break it to him gently and just say hun "I love you I really do but right now I just can't be with you.... I just need some space, sometime on my own" Please try to understand.... I just need to figure out what I really want right now and I can't do that with you around. I'm sorry.
Well something like that eek! But you really gotta be honest with him and tell him how you feel.
Good Luck
2007-03-07 23:28:41 · answer #7 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard question...although its really up to you. Tell him that you need space, maybe that will make things better, or even turn out for the best. I know it is easier said than done. Talking to him personally is the best,tell him you need this space to have time for yourself and if things get better you never know..you guys might find eachother again.
2007-03-07 23:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by ro_bertah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my gf broke up with me because i was too protective and just cared too much, it really does hurt sooo much and we were only going out for 8 months but she was my life, if you do break up with him to teach him a lesson jus do it for a lil while and he will learn and get back with him, or you can just try to at least sit down and have a talk with him, tell him exactly how your feeling and what your thinking that its not working if he keeps it up and if he really loves you he will listen to what you got to say and try to change what he can for you, that could changed everything for yall 2 i wish my gf would of just done that cause your right it really does hurt well good luck hope everything goes ok, mabye you can give me some advice
2007-03-08 01:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by Brandon D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when they say breaking up is hard to do its so true .and there is no easy way to do it....and if you know that his temper is out of control.my advice to you is leave for awhile and try to fine your self and .tell him you going away.for a while .to care for someone .and men always say they love you but its control that they like and sure he going to hurt him that part of breaking up, it hurt so bad .let me tell you.. he get over it. it take time but he fine someone else....please think of number one and that is (YOU) the only one that matters
2007-03-07 23:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋