Well i lost my virginity today, regrettably. Was nothing like I imagined it and I really wish I waited for someone I really liked.
But I was wondering is there such a thing as sex thats not too good for guys?
and do people usually feel so depressed after their first time?
2007-03-07 15:03:49 · 20 answers · asked by Monkey 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i like her, but i like other girls more.. i'd only known her for a day..
i'm 16.. too young i know.. to any other young people out there dont do it.
2007-03-07 15:09:09 · update #1
oh btw the girl wasn't a virgin she was experienced i guess you'd say
2007-03-07 15:17:15 · update #2
You seem like a nice, sensitive type of guy. You wanted your first time to be special, but for most people it isn't. It is a sad reality. Most people are so desperate to get it over with they do it with people they probably shouldn't.
Of course sex can be bad for a guy. Have you ever heard the terminology "cold fish?" If a chick is frigid or just lays there the sex will be horrible.
A lot of people get depressed after their first time due to it not being quite what they thought it would be. Don't be so hard on yourself. Just try to make it better next time.
2007-03-07 15:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by acvader 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are depressed cause you settled. If it was a hot girl that you could brag about, you would feel different. Next, most girls aren't THAT good. It's about sharing that moment. Another part of the reason your depressed is because you put it on a pedestal and the girl underachieved. Understand that sex is an act and not magic and you'll cope. Next time, make sure its someone you want to have sex with, and that she is a little more experienced. This is why virgin girls aren't all they are cracked up to be, it takes a girls skills as much as the guys to get it to be great. Relax, get your head out from under water and know that it can only get better. And try to have some fun with it...it is SEX!
2007-03-07 23:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by micky630 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people are very depressed after their first time, especially if it was someone who you were not in love with. I had the same experience (my first was with someone who I was not dating) I liked him and everything but he didnt like me and I knew that..... I still did it. I was DEPRESSED for a few days straight, and wished I wouldn't have done it. After all you did lose something - your virginity. However, there is nothing you can do about it now....in the big picture, it is not a big deal. I know that alot of people make it a big deal to WHO you lose your virginity to and that is should be perfectly special, but you know, its not really a big deal. Maybe it will be the 3rd or 4th person that you have sex with that there will be true love. Most people feel guilty/depressed/regretful about their first. Things will work out, good luck :)
2007-03-07 23:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have heard that the first time is usually the worst because you don't know what you are doing, really. Personally, after my first time, i felt awful...like i was going to pass out or throw up. And i was really regretting having done it...and it was on my wedding night! About the virginity thing...hey, it is never too late to STOP! Now that you feel the way you do, and you know that sex is not all it is cracked up to be, wait for that one special, wonderful person...the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Save yourself for that one person and you and she can patiently discover what really pleases the other. Then it will be a beautiful and wonderfully intimate experience that only you two share.
i am guessing that you feel depressed because you know you should have waited. Try to remember that. Best wishes!
2007-03-07 23:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by fair blue 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex in todays society shows the physical side but not the emotional. Society makes it seem like it's an extra curricular activity. Sex can be bad for a girl or a boy. Feeling depressed after your first time is normal. Especially if it wasn't with someone special. Sex is to bond two people together, to share your love with them. When done for just physical reasons all kinds of problems can arise. Forgive yourself, learn from what you have done, and save yourself for someone whom you want to spend your life with. There is no greater gift to give you spouse then your body that you saved for them. Good luck.
2007-03-07 23:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by Shyler 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes some guys who are rather sensitive emotionally may not enjoy casual sexual intimacy. Ya some times ppl do get a little let down feeling after the first time since it might hv been a casual indulgence in physical urges. Dun feel bad abt it as these things take some time to ease. Just remember to be more discerning the next time.
2007-03-07 23:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by t4capricorn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is bad guy sex,
I think if you are depressed after it is cause you were not ready but did it anyway. OR You thought it was going to be sooooo much better than it was.
For the second to be great you have to be with the right person at the right time. Can't go back and change it now but it is a heads up for the future sex encounters.
2007-03-07 23:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by cvhuntaylor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know about the first question but as for the 2nd one, I think a lot of people say that. Having your virginity is something sacred and often times people regret "giving" something that special away, esp if you didn't like the person well enough. It's a regret you will probably carry for a while. All you can do it learn from it. Good luck
2007-03-07 23:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by brandyswilkes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a big deal if you have lost your virginity. First time sex is not much enjoyable. you should ask question if sex isnot enjoyable why guys do it? Yes guys enjoy sex but has to be many factor contributing to enjoyable sex for eg, right moood correct partner attitute and a good secure and peace full environment. Donot be depressed try again and you will enjoy it. Sex is not only physical game its also a mind game.
2007-03-07 23:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by Spartan Total Warrior 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, that just goes to show that you weren't ready at all...sorry to say...I think there is such a thing as sex that is not good for guys...you shouldn't feel so down that you call it depressed, if so it means it was all wrong timing and you needed to wait for "the one." I have to wonder if you were pressured into it or if it was just a thing of the moment that felt right but wasnt..." I'm sorry that it wasn't right...Best of luck to you
2007-03-07 23:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋