what are logical consequences that 4 year olds actually LEARN from?

Answer 1

consequences that they pick, for example. mom: it's time to pick up your toys.
child: no
mom: well lets see you can pick up your toys now so you will have them to play with the next time you want to....or.... I can pick them up and put them in box in the top of my closet. which works best for you?

let them make the decision. But only give them two choices and make sure you can live with both. Then follow thru......!!!!! This can work with anything from not eating dinner to staying in bed. Give them a choice and if they get upset by the outcome you remind them who chose.. They will catch on quick and begin to think before they answer.

Answer 2

It just depends but here are some suggestions

Other kids not wanting to play with them because they are aggressive
Not replacing a broken toy after they intentionally broke it
Not buying thier favorite cereal/snack at the store cuz they acted like a little maniac
Packing all the toys on the floor into garbage bags (don't have to really throw them away just put them up in the garage or something for a week or so) cuz they won't pick up their room, and then making them earn them back with good behavior
Telling them you are disappointed in their behavior
Telling them you don't like how they are acting
If they are aggressive fawning over the injured child and telling them look how sad so and so is, you hurt them

The best way to think about logical or natural consequences is to ask yourself what would happen in the real world (i.e. other kids don't play with bullies, other children cry and get upset when you hurt them).

Answer 3

Assuming that you think a 4 year old is young to learn, let me tell you something amazing: At my house the living room and bedrooms are together and the kitchen, bathroom, and laundry rooms are together. I did not want my 8 month old to crawl into the kitchen and bathroom and get into the cabinets and all that stuff. So I taught him that the tile of the kitchen was "No" and the carpet of the living room was "Good boy". Every day, the first three or so times he would go into the kitchen, I would smack his hand 1-2 times and say "No", telling him that the kitchen was bad and the living room was good. (I was trying to warn him.) After that, I would spank him 3-4 swats on his bottom. (The spanking on his bottom got his attention better.) After 2 months, I am proud to say that not only does he stay out of our kitchen, we went to someone's house and he crawled to their kitchen, felt that it was tile, and turned around and never again went to it. Consistency--every single little time--is the key. If I had let him get away with it sometimes, he would still be trying to go into our kitchen to see if THIS time he could get away with it. I know for a fact that if this technique will work with my 10 month old, it will work with your four year old. The only difference would by time--it might take longer for you because you have a longer history to correct.

Answer 4

I take things away from my 4 yr old. But i use the things that mean the most at that time. She likes My Little Pony right now, so I will take one away and she has to earn them back. She also responds well to the naughty corner. When she was 3 I used to have an earning chart for her where if she behaved all week she could chose a place to have dinner on a sat. night it gave her something to look forward that she knew she earned and if she misbehaved i would remind her that her behavior want earning her a star for our sat. dinner and she would snap out of whatever mood she was in and try to earn another star.

Answer 5

A child who hits another: The aggressor gets removed from all children until they are ready to be gentle. The “victim” does not want to play with them for fear they will get hurt.

A child who throws a toy: They are asked to pick up the toy and put it back or they cannot play with toys until they are ready not to throw them.

A child who draws on a table: They are given a scrub brush, spray bottle, and towel to clean it.

A child who breaks a toy on purpose: They put the toy in the trash and others are disappointed that they can no longer use the toy.

A child who purposefully falls out of a chair: They are asked to stand until they are ready to stop falling out of the chair.

A child who spills their milk: They are asked to get a towel to clean it.

Clothes not put into the hamper do not get washed.

A child who insists on running into the street is not allowed outside.

A child who is disruptive in circle gets removed until they are ready to sit politely.

A great book that explains in detail about using logical and natural consequence is Children the Challenge by Rudolf Dreikurs!

Answer 6

Question: I try to discipline my preschooler, but he doesn't seem to care. What should I do?

Answer: It sounds like your discipline strategy isn't working. Rather than trying to punish away misbehavior, think of discipline as a teaching tool. And keep in mind that there are two things your preschooler needs in order to learn what you want him to: Ability and motivation.

Say he refuses to come to you when you ask him to, and you give him a time-out. What has he learned? To come to you? To follow directions? In fact, he's probably learned neither. Instead of giving him a time-out, try approaching the situation as a teaching task — you're going to teach your preschooler to come to you when you call. Start by explaining, "It's really important that you come when I call your name." When he does, give him a small reward. At this age, "attention rewards" are best, so play a game with him or read him a book. Explain that the reward won't be there every time, but that he'll need to come to you every time you ask to find out when it will be. This is a conditioning process that teaches him to respond to your directions. Don't forget to praise your child's behavior ("It's great that you come when I ask you to!") rather than him ("Good boy!"). Now he has both the ability and the motivation to follow your directions.

Teaching your preschooler self-discipline requires ability and motivation on your part too. It's a process that takes know-how, time, and energy — but the payoff is well worth it.

Answer 7

4 year olds should respond to time out or the confiscation of their favourite toy for a period of time. But time out is the best consequence. 4 mins - 1 min for each year of life - in a certain spot, mat on the floor, chair, step etc. that is known to the child as time out and then after they have completed the 4 mins explain why you put them there and that you love them but they cannot do that anymore.
Hope this helps

Answer 8

No more Happy Meals...Take away their most favorite toy until they can conform to your rules. You are the parent and you must let them know that. If they respect you, they will trust you..and hopefully they will obey you.

Answer 9

What are you talking about. 4year olds learn from everything they see and hear if that is what you mean