I lost touch with an ex for about 2yrs. That whole time he has been looking for me and vice versa. We just found each other again and have been "dating" for the past 2 weeks. I LOVE this boy but the previous relationship with him was not the best. I gave him everything i had in me and didnt get much in return. Since that time i have grown and learned from past mistakes with him so i have just been taking it slow so as not to get too wrapped up in him and i am doing great with that part. The problem is now I MAY be pregnant by him and am coming to the realization that after all that time not much has changed with him. I still care about him so i would not mind the child being by him because we have history but he hasnt changed much and i think i am gonna get major hurt if i have a child by him. I dont want to get an abortion i tried emergency contraception i dont think it worked. i am taking a test tomorrow. If i am pregnant i think i am screwed
2007-03-07 14:39:55 · 15 answers · asked by JAY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jay, what you may have is a serious Life challenge. If you are pregnant, what you must first realise that you are going to become a mother. The practical facts are that the boy provided only the sperm. Everything else in the process is owned by you, and you must alter your way of thinking to accommodate a child. Harsh? No, if you think about it. You are Woman, and you are capable of dealing with anything better than a man, especially where nurturing a baby is concerned. Turn your mind towards yourself and the baby, and let himself take care of himself. If YOU make the decisions, he can either go along with it, or go away. YOU are in charge here, and if you didn't already know it, today is International Woman's Day, so SALUT!
2007-03-07 15:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All that I can say is good luck, and do what you truly feel is right for you. Maybe this will cause your ex to mature? Try to stay on the positive side. I applaud you for not wanting to get an abortion. But, hopefully you find out you arent pregnant so you dont even have to worry! I wish you the best of luck with all this, and just remember things will be okay! If you are pregnant, he might just grow up, and things might change for the better! Keep looking ahead!!!
Good luck!
2007-03-07 14:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by *LaUrEN* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know that abortion is definitely not an option for you or any other woman!! That is a precious gift from God and you were chosen to be the one to have this child and bring it up according to the Christian values!! As far as the boyfriend, this is what may make him realize how important you are to him and how he needs to be a part of this beautiful child's life. Hope things work out for you. Know that I pray daily for single mothers and for those children that never get a breath because they were aborted because of an inconvience that the mother felt.
2007-03-07 15:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by terrydanos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him know that he may be a daddy , this is first. I would judge his reactions before I did anything else. If he loves you, he will want you and the baby, and if he does not, then keep the baby, be a good Mom and let him pay child support. Let him visit the baby, be civil, never know when things could turn for the best.
2007-03-07 14:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by zack 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to stay with him if you are pregnant. You could think of adoption as well as being a single mother. If you are pregnant, it must be meant to be that you are. It just doesn't mean you have to stay with him. Of course now, If you are, he'll always be apart of your life. I hope for this childs sake the two of you can come to a mature compromise. **** luck and try and stay possitive.
2007-03-07 14:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by Tina D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a woman being pregnant is a blessing if done right with love between you and him. apparently you need to talk to him. have a serious talk if he is mature of enough for that. i do not know if he is. for what i read that is what you need to do. being a single mother isnt all that bad. i know a single mother. she is a beautiful woman named asia. she has two children. I enjoy being her friend. so just follow your heart and just love your baby with all your heart if you are pregnant. do not do anything to put the baby's life in danger. eat healthy and do not get depressed for your child's sake if your pregnant and when you are.
2007-03-07 14:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take things easy, I know its difficult but sometimes we have to do things for someone (here, baby). Try to work out things, many times we just do not say what we want in a relationship ? Convey your difficulties about this and try to make him understand what u feel and how u want things to be.
2007-03-07 14:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If neither you nor your boyfriend had enough foresight to buy a 75 cent gas station rubber, then let's hope you aren't pregnant. I doubt that you are ready for a baby. And I sure wouldn't hold my breath waiting for the male "friend" to be responsible. Go to your nearest Women's Clinic and at least see your options might be.
2007-03-07 15:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look lady you have suffered alto. Now it's his time to suffer, you should once it for all cut all relationship with this guy because he doe snot give a dam that you are pregnant. So try to find any method to live without him.
2007-03-07 14:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by maki" The time begins Now 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go slow with this. Make sure you are not thinking nostalgically. Things about him that you do not like you may have forgotten. And he may have changed in the interim. So slow. Keep it simple. No time to be talking babies.
2007-03-07 14:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋