I'm going to be a new mom soon and i can't stop thinking about how it's going to be...i'm soooo scared that i'mnot going to be good enough...or i'm going to do everything wrong...how do i calm myself...and stop thinking about all this? i'm worrying myself sick...
2007-03-07 14:31:48 · 15 answers · asked by shana b 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think it's normal to feel that way. All you have to remember is that we all learn as we go along and noone is a perfect mother to start with. you will do great
2007-03-07 14:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by tiffany d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to relax, thats the first thing to do...next, the fact that you are worried about whether or not you'll be a good enough mom, means you are already on the road to being a GREAT mom! Becoming a parent is a big responsibility, which gives any person good reason to be anxious about it...don't worry so much, you are going to do great! Once you have your little one in your arms, your "mommy instincts" will kick in and you'll know what to do...don't get me wrong, you may still have a million questions, but you'll figure things out really quickly...Don't hesitate to ask your family and friends, or better yet your child's pediatrician any questions you may have! You won't do everything wrong...I think every expectant parent feels that way! Just picture you rocking that beautiful new baby to calm you down...and remember, when you are at the hospital (once you've had your baby) ask the nurses as many questions as you may have...that is what they are there for, okay?? Relax, it's going to be okay, you will do GREAT!!! Congrats on your new little one on the way, and best of luck to you!!!
2007-03-07 22:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by Renee B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a baby 8 months ago. I had a great pregnancy and then the night before I was induced I LOST IT! I was so scared...which is normal!....but the morning of I knew I was going to do it and it would be OK. It sounds stupid but you realize that your parents were just trying to figure things out, nobody just knows it all. Its your baby and you will learn that you know more than you ever thought you would!(there IS such a thing as a mother's intuition!) Get the book "what to know during the 1st yr".
Now its the craziest thing to see my daughter want something and she looks for ME! It will come, if you have a question call the dr, and that baby will think you hung the moon regardless if you knew what to do or had to get help.
Funny story...
Leaving the hosptial my husband and I put her in the car seat wrong. An old lady saw us struggling with the straps and about died laughing at us. The fabulous part...those few weeks when you dont know how to use thing and you're figuring stuff out...the baby wont know unless you tell it.
2007-03-07 22:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by GAjen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for u to worry about being the best parent u can be. I asure u that with birth comes a lot of other feellings u have not still experienced. Calm ur self and think that when the time comes for ur baby to arrive u will be prepared for everything that comes with it. Parenting is a natural thing and something that nobody can teach u and I'm sure u will be great at it. U can read On becoming Babywise, it's a book that tells u many important fact about new parenting. My baby was sleeping through the night by 1 1/2 months old. I highly recomend it.
2007-03-07 22:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by ynkoknyta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are worried about being a good parent, that is the first step in BECOMING a good parent. As long as you are a nurturing parent and make your decisions based on what is best for your child, there is no right or wrong way to parenting. It is a trial and err process. If something doesn't work, try something else. Ask other parents, doctors, etc. for advice on how to handle situations, and just know that you are going to make mistakes...as a parent we all do. Just learn from the mistakes and move on.
Congratulations, and relax. It is natural to feel the way you are feeling.
2007-03-07 23:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety don't worry. Mothers instinct will kick in believe me you will do just fine, However if your unsure Have your mum around to help with those little insecure ties.
No one really can tell you how to raise or what to expect when having a baby. Its human nature to take care of your own. There is nothing more beautiful than having a baby and watching them grow.
Naturally it can be overwhelming at first but honestly, it's one of those wonderful human miracles that woman were blessed with.
You will do just fine, Count to ten breath slowly and say "I'm going to be the best mum this baby will ever have.
Good luck and congratulations.
2007-03-07 23:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by aotea s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've felt the same way with each of my children. It's an overwhelming feeling, knowing you now not only have to take care of yourself, but another, helpless being.
What I did was arm myself with knowledge. I asked questions of my O.B., I read books (What to Expect When You're Expecting and Doctor Spock). Knowledge is power. When you've got a reasonably good idea of what to expect you can handle anything.
Being a mom is hard work, but you don't have to be perfect. Realize that it is a learning process and be willing to make mistakes. Congratulations to you! I'm sure your baby will love you even if you put his/her diaper on the wrong way once in awhile!
2007-03-07 22:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by socmum16 ♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep breath...everything will be fine. You learn with your baby and everyone makes the same small mistakes and learns from them. You will be overwhelmed at first, but you get in a groove and you work it out with your baby. You can't do everything wrong, you can't do anything wrong...that baby loves you already and won't mind if you put his/her first diaper on backwards....It will be just fine and it only gets more and more fun the further you go!! Good luck!!
2007-03-07 23:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by poseyschic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, God gave you a natural motherly instinct. There is a great book written by pediatricians called Your child age birth to 5 years. Get this book and read through it, in fact, read through lots of parenting books! You can check them out at your local library. I have 5 kids, and I loved newborns! They are soooo soft and sweet! All they do is eat sleep, cuddle and poop! :) SUch fun!
2007-03-07 22:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by Mother of 5/Madre de 5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll do fine.. to come yourself down just think of how that beautiful little baby that u created will stare into your eyes and just think about seeing his or her first steps and laughing all the time at the silliest things they start to do.. you'll be fine cuz u know what.. deep inside God gave all woman natural instinct.
2007-03-07 22:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you start telling yourself, "I am not only a first mom, but I love my baby and my baby is depending on me and trusts me, and I am going to show my baby all the warmth and love I can to bring him/her up and he/she will be a really great kid. Maybe I will have a baby sister or brother for this one soon...Because I love being a mom"
We all feel that way before the first one...but please don't be afraid to ask advice if you have any questions and remember, women have been becoming new moms for thousands of years...You will be great...I am sooooo happy for you...Good luck...
2007-03-07 22:39:40 · answer #11 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋