Getting over a death.?

Question

I'm having a hard time getting over my friends death. She was only 14. She was really cool, and she took her own life. I don't know how to deal with grief...any suggestions?

Answer 1

You never really get over any death of a close friend or relation, all you can do is learn how to deal with it in your own way. It is much harder when the death occurs so young or in tragic circumstances. Ways i have used and ways i have seen people use to cope are talking to other people that remember them, doing something to recognise their life(like fund raising or a memorial), Religion, writing them letters or talking to them as if they are still in the room and the only one that everyone uses is time. Your grief will get easier to handle but will never go away.

Answer 2

I am sorry for your loss. Understand that your friend unfortunately made a terrible mistake and that you can learn from it. How? Well, that life if a choice, make the wrong one and you can cause much damage (as your friend did), make the right choice and you can bring positive things into your life.

Remember the good of this person, but don't carry that into feeling down. Look for what is fulfilling in your own life. Do good things for others, this always makes us feel good. One of the most important things in life is to make sure you are a good person doing good deeds. Keep active; school, working, hobbies, volunteering, etc. Life is a gift. Just think of those who are dying, they would give anything to have life.

I would also seek out the school counselor and discuss your feelings. It's good to talk to others when you feel sad when someone dies. Maybe you can honor your friend by getting a list of the symptoms of depression leading to suicide and passing them around so people will understand what it looks like. You will be educating people so if they are in this position, they will hopefully seek help and others that understand the symptoms can help them.

Take care.

Answer 3

Emily death is final and when you lose a friend this young and to know that she took her own life is a heavy cross to bear for all who knew her .when people take there own they never think about the people they leave behind,and the sadness that they have to deal with.....it is normal to have feeling of fear and grief takes time time to heal ....you will most likely won't get over her death this is a new experience and time will heal just try find comfort within you and pray for her ..in time you will find closure and be able to move on ..but you need to grieve and you will be ok i promise pray to the blessed mother she will help.....love kara

Answer 4

Remember the good times as said and then move along. Her death is past and you need to keep up with your life. It is sad that she took her life but you still have yours to get on with. My wife died 4 years ago and I still miss her, but the cancer won and that is that.

Of course I have a distorted view that everyone has a best by date hidden somewhere and when they go, that's the way it's supposed to be.

Answer 5

I suffered the death of someone very dear to me. I saw a psychiatrists for six years. The most important thing I learned is to always remember the good times. I would definately seek help for something of this magnitude.

Answer 6

Try going to a counselor, pray to the Lord for help, talk to someone in your family about it. That's about the best I can do. Good luck, it's very hard to do. My best buddy died 3 years ago and I'm not over it yet. God bless you.

Answer 7

Death takes time and it should not be rushed, grive and remember the moments, Dont rush it. Everyone grives at a differnt rate. Take your time and smell the roses.

Answer 8

always rmember good times and pray to her (if you are not in a religon then just talk to her. and say she is okay

Answer 9

terry b is right, pray to god, or whatever you may believe in, and find someone to talk to about it.