Ok, Sunday night I went to the hospital with false labor (didn't know it was false at the time). My grandmother came and got my oldest daughter and my mother in law took the two younger. Saturday I started developing a cold and long story short with the cold, the false labor and the lack of sleep my husband and I left the children with his mother in law (and the older one with my grandmother) because he had to work and I felt like crap and didn't think I could take very good care of them. Here is the part I need help with. My mother in law did not properly feed or bathe them (I guess her hot water heater went out 2 days before). My 5 year old told me they had cereal for breakfast and dinner both days and no lunch, she also said that my 18 month old was given nothing but milk the whole time. Now I realize that 5 years olds are... less than completely reliable for details but when I picked them up I sent the 5 year old to preschool and took the 18 month old to feed her lunch.
2007-03-07 14:24:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
She has NEVER inhaled food the way she did that day. Nor has she ever eaten that much in a single sitting. My 18 month old has gotten very clingy since this. My question is, how do I handle this? I have no one else to leave them with, my grandmother cannot handle the younger two. I intend to send over a big bunch of nutritious snacks and what not (I have no idea whether they will recieve any of them because beside my mother in law there are 2 teenagers and 2 of her grown sons living in her house). I think I will send my husband up with a meal for them at least once a day while I am in the hospital. But beyond this what can I do? I REALLY need my husband with me but I am going to be sooooo worried about my youngest two children. Please help?
2007-03-07 14:29:35 · update #1
Wow, that's really rough. I don't know what to tell you.
2007-03-07 14:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by autumnofserenity@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Susie's right, children this young should be watched in their own home, not for God knows how long in Grandmas while you have your baby. At least that way you could set up little meals for the kids in the fridge, making sure it's balanced, even a pot pie frozen would be better than cereal twice a day. Label them with Sharpie for each kid.
Your husband needs to step up on this one, you're about to pop, have hormones and do NOT need this kind of additional stress. Tell him to talk to her, just say that you BOTH think it would help the girls more to stay at their house, and say MIL is more than welcome to use your bed (dh can change the sheets when you come home!) Make up a schedule for eating and naptimes, and maybe some little rules that you have. Just say that you appreciate her watching the kids and that you thought this would help.
2007-03-07 17:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In addition to sending food with them, you could try making a list of things the 5 year old likes to eat. Then you could try making a little schedule of what and when to feed the 18 month old. Have your husband talk to her to find out if the 5 year old was truthfull about the situation. Good luck I hope this helps.
2007-03-07 14:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by precious1too 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think i would 'confide' in her that as the children are picky would she mind if you sent over their meals that you know they'll eat? and that you're trying to get them into a routine of eating at certain times, say you know this may be a little awkward for her as she already has a houseful to look after but that she's the only one you feel can do help you. i know this is a white lie but i don't feel as if confrontation will help anything at this stage, it will only antagonise you're only carer! alternatively, could your husband take the kids out for a meal - what am i saying? there are no alternatives, your kids will be starving otherwise! i wouldn't worry about her bathing them, they'll soon clean up. hope this helps good luck
2007-03-08 10:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by sue brew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still gramma and unless your husband was abused by her I would not worry. She would not allow harm to come to them. My advice relax, do not fret, or worry, be happy you will have a new arrival shortly. Focus on that and use the time in the hospital to relax, because trust me you will need it. For when you get home. Remember nobody can care for kids better than mom and nobody will ever do it exactly how we do. So if they are dirty when you get them back, no biggy skin is really versatile and washes well. And the good news to make you laugh, it will take a while for them to starve to death and by the time that would happen you will be out of the hospital.
2007-03-07 18:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
even as my youngest became born, my older 2 babies were there. They were 10 and six and a 1/2. the ten year previous became going to be there besides besides the undeniable fact that the 6 and a 1/2 eayr previous became there because the toddler got here swifter than planned and my mum didnt make it on time! Your 5 year previous is properly previous to understand somewhat more suitable-what i imagine is the perfect issue to prep them for is they are going to very likely see their mummy crying and perhaps shouting yet attempt to describe it truly is reliable crying. Say you are able to make noise to help their toddler sister/brother be born so as that they don't favor to be scared. enable them be contained in the room in the journey that they prefer and go away in the journey that they prefer. in reality have them as in contact as you or they are chuffed with. it truly is truly likely they are going to be bored-my 6 and a 1/2 eyar previous performed on his DS until eventually i became pushing! They were both stunning inspite of the truth that. the sorrowful issue is your babies may be too youthful to save in ideas! reliable luck!
2016-12-05 09:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by butlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would it be possible for your mother in law to watch your kids at your house instead of hers? That way her kids and whatnot won't eat all your kids food, and you know that your fridge and pantry are well stocked and you have a functioning hot water heater.
Your kids would probably more comfortable too.
2007-03-07 14:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by susiemama 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your husaband really needs to get involved here.
either take off from work and care for those children ---hire someone to come in and care for them-- or make sure he spends a great deal of time at his mothers with those two children.....and make sure their needs are met.....
2007-03-07 14:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by cork 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would send them with food and make very sure that your instructions are clear on when they are supposed to eat. make out a schedule if you have to.
2007-03-07 14:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋