He is very addicted to games. I had so many talks of how games wont help me in life, but he doesn't listen to me. He is getting C's and B's. He used to be a very smart kid. He struggles to learn now and still plays. Help! I would also need some good study habits to show my son. Mine aren't working for him.
2007-03-07 14:23:57 · 28 answers · asked by alex k 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You can't actually stop him,except if you lock him in his room without the computer inthere which I don't recommend.You can give him other things to do - going out(with or without you),playing football,friends,etc.If you forbid the games,he will go to a club to play,so that wouldn't work.Just let him do other things and get some of his friends involved.Go with another family camping in the weekend.Get him to play bowling.Something like that if done often enough might help.
2007-03-07 17:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by Livia 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I completely understand what you are going through. My son is also 12 and loves to play his video games. I make him do his homework first, I limit him to 2 hours a day (computer and video games). Mine gets mad for timing him but if I didn't he would be on it all day. Although, sometimes he gets over it and moves on to something else and if he doesn't and wants to argue with me about I just take it away. Does he have any other interests? If so make him do those sometimes, or send him outside. Also, I am sure he is still a very smart kid, I think that it is just a stage that they go through at this age, with all the changes they are going through.
2007-03-07 14:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by momof2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, those video games are soooo addictive!! Which is why we don't own one! I just heard a talk show on this very subject! You can listen to that talk show here http://www.oneplace.com/Ministries/Focus_on_the_Family/archives.asp?bcd=2/19/2007
They have a lot of suggestions about how to SAVE your SON now! Before it is too late! This is a two part series so be sure to look through the archives for the second part! Good Luck!
Also, there is a book you can buy http://resources.family.org/product/id/104149.do?code=OL07XFRC
2007-03-07 14:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by Mother of 5/Madre de 5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the parent. Grow a backbone and take away the games! Your son is 12. Not 18, not 20. He's probably still in elementary school, right? I can't believe you've lost control already.
Take away all the games and game systems. If this includes the computer, so be it. He also needs to get into counseling for gaming addiction. This addiction is starting to be recognized by physchiatrists all over the world.
Take control and get your son the help he needs.
2007-03-07 14:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell him he has a set ammount of time to play games. that he has to do his homework before he is allowed to play. If he doesn't listen take the games away for the rest of the day or more. If he is going to friends houses to play when his time is up at home call his friends mom or dad and ask them not to let him play. You can make game time a reward like "Itake out the trash and you can have 15 more minutes game time today" But most of all be consistant in your rules. Good luck! :)
2007-03-07 14:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by scarletgirl14 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to make a child lose interest in something, is for a parent to take a great interest in it and enjoy it. Then it loses the cool factor. LOL
Seriously, they are now classifying gaming as an addiction. Even the major rehab centers are developing programs for compulsive gamers. It is becoming a serious issue.
2007-03-07 15:53:24 · answer #6 · answered by B H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take away his games until he gets his grades up. but the only thing is that dont take other stuff from him because you know that the games are his main hit. Let him go with his friends so that he can expand his mind. So he wont be stuck on that game all the time. Take him places and do things with him.
2007-03-07 15:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by Mark L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAke the game from him. Your the parent he's the child. His grades will improve. Just tell him no games till the weekend until his grades come up. A lot of times boys go through phases anywhere from 5-7th grade when school gets a little challenging for them. . At my son's school they have a homework hotline to help kids with their assignments for the night. They also have after school tutoring for different subjects and the after school bus brings him home.
2007-03-07 14:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First if all you are the adult and you set the rules, only allow him time for games after his homework and chores are completed. He should be allowed only a certain amount of time each day for this, allow time for family, friends and outside. You should also monitor the games he plays some are just not right for a child of his age.
2007-03-07 14:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by sla571963 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who is the adult here. JUST SAY NO. You can use his games as leverage. Tell him he can play games the same amount of time , that he studies. Take him to church , if u dont go already. Get him involved in the youth programs at church. Children dont have to have everything they want. I have been there and done that. The outcome was not good. He also need a good role male role model. God Bless.
2007-03-07 14:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋