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logical consequences to help a child learn from their mistakes?

2007-03-07 14:20:42 · 2 answers · asked by Mighty Opinions 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

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I worked at a preschool, and we often used "logical" consequences to help children learn. For example, if a child kept playing in a water fountain and getting wet after being asked to stop, instead of automatically putting the child in time-out, the child got to stay in the wet clothes for a little while--not all day or anything as that could be unhealthy, but just long enough to get the point across. I think we usually called these natural consequences. The idea is to try to offer a consequence that could occur naturally from the action, that way the children understands the negative consequences that come from the action.

Sometimes these would come across more as "traditional" punishments. For example, I had a time or two where a child refused to sit down to eat their snacks, or would play with the food, or throw it, etc. We always gave a warning, (i.e. "If you do that again you're showing us that you're finished), and if the child repeated the behavior, then the snack (or occassionally lunch) was taken away and they were taken from the table. We always made it a point to reiterate the reason, as well. For instance, saying, "We asked you to stop throwing your food and told you that if you did it again you were finished, so it looks like you've decided you're finished. Time to put the food away and go sit on the mat while your friends finish."

While the consequence became the child did not get snack, or didn't get to finish it, it wasn't punshment in the traditional sense. No one was saying, "If you don't listen you can't have snack," or anything, the consequences were made a natural extension of the action. Also, the children were always warned, and we always explained the reason, and always made it clear that it was the child's *choice* that lead to the consequence, and that the child could choose to act differently.

Many people may think this wouldn't work with young children, but we did this with kids all the way from a year old and up. Even the very young ones understand after the first time or two, and it's a really great way to help mould behavior and prevent acting out.

2007-03-07 15:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by kaitlyne 3 · 0 0

they get punished. missing recess, missing parties, ect.. the same things that happen at home. if you don't get your work done, you don't get whatever.

2007-03-07 22:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0 0

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