I'm 14 years old and I don't know if I'm ready for sex yet. I do have alot of sexual thoughts about boys/men and I don't know what to do to stop thinking about them. Any suggestions?
2007-03-07 14:02:49 · 23 answers · asked by scarletgirl14 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it is pretty normal. It is natural curiousity. I certainly felt like that when I was 14. I think it is good that you are aware of it, rather than trying to supress it or deny that you are thinking about sex.
Do you have a boyfriend that you are making out with? This will even more heighten your thoughts as you are getting close to him and wondering what next steps are. If you know that you aren't ready, that's totally cool. No reason to rush into sex...you certainly have your whole life to have it. And honestly, your first time does stick with you in your mind, and it really also isn't that great.
Why don't you write about it in a journal? I'd make sure it is a private journal, but possibly getting your thoughts out on paper would help. If you don't know if you are ready for sex, it's cool to wait. But, try to get your thoughts out on paper or maybe read about it more about it online...well, stuff that is targeted towards teens.
2007-03-07 14:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by Keep It Sane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, just about the worst thing you could do is try to get rid of these thoughts. The thoughts you are having are not uncommon for people your age and are not unnatural or sinful or unhealthy or anything like that.
They are hormonally-based responses to changes going on within your body in relation to puberty and normal human maturation.
These thoughts have nothing to do with sexual orientation or sexual deviance. They will have little to no bearing on your formation as a sexual adult. Enjoy your youth, place limited importance on these thoughts, and ride out the often rocky road of puberty. You'll be fine.
2007-03-07 22:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by rougelatete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely not ready for sex. Being curious is normal but you need to find something else to occupy your time. Spend more time with girlfriends, volunteer with an agency, get active in sports, etc. There are so many avenues open to young girls these days that you don't have to fill your time with boyfriends, sex and all the drama that comes with it.
2007-03-07 22:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its part of being a teen. Maybe if you do something else to distract you like hang with your friends or go to the movies or shopping may take your mind of it. I cant tell you this, so many people your age r having sexx these days, but i can tell you that 14 is wayy to young. I know my friend made that mistake at 4 and got pregnant.
Good Luck.
Shawna. =)
2007-03-07 22:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you're at that stage. I say for you to wait a while before you regret doing something you're quite no ready for. Join a club or start a hobby to keep you active for now. Even have guy friends (if you don't already) so you are more comfortable around them.
2007-03-07 22:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by LT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this world is flooding you with it every where you go--the world is not your friend, sex to you would be like dynamite, dangerous. stay away from rap or all sexual music and things girls are saying about sex, think about God, read the bible, go to church, read other books, do art work, learn to cook or bake. At your age I had hobbies, i liked sports, and i baby sat.
2007-03-07 22:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's very normal for you to be having those types of thoughts but what you have to focus on is not giving in to them because it will just cause trouble to yourself and more problems.... try to think of other things and consume your time wisely so that you wont find yourself thinking about that... trust me it helps to get your mind off of that when your having fun.. trust me lol, go hang with some friends (FEMALE friends0 and just enjoy being young....
2007-03-07 22:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by partyanimalkg12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have thoughts doesn't mean you have to do anything about them. For example, right now I have thoughts about burning things but you don't see me with 4 gatorade bottles filled with gasoline in the trunk of my car and a map with several places maked on it, do ya?
DO YA???
Just kidding...geez. Relax, enjoy the thoughts and welcome to puberty.
2007-03-07 22:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to have these desires, but you're definitely not ready yet, not untill you're married. Find something to keep your mind off this stuff.
2007-03-07 22:07:34 · answer #9 · answered by Paul W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you don't know if you're ready for sex..that mean's your not
and if you want to get rid of these thoughts than concentrate on other things...things that you like... like sports or movies or going to the parc and hanging out with your friends...things like that
2007-03-07 22:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by n1cyndy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋