How come i dont have a girlfriend?

Question

I am hansom(people have told me.. im not hard headed), i am very nice, i help people with their problems, i am trustworthy, i am brave, i am dependable, and i am charming(again, people have told me) what does it take? How do i get a girlfriend... please no stupid comments i need the truth

I am also smart and funny.
My friends and other people tell me that i should have a girlfriend but i dont.
what is wrong with me?

Answer 1

Love is a fickle thing, and usually happens when u least expect it. Try doing things you enjoy, and that way you stand a chance of meeting someone with similar tastes. Bars are never good, as you meet women who are drinkers and trust me-it rarely works out. Never date a woman who does drugs or has more than 2 drinks per evening out-you don't want to go there. Church isn't a bad place. Try tennis or a gym-at least the woman will be healthy and concerned with her appearance. There are probably a lot of women asking the same question. I met my wife online and wrote for 3 years b4 we met-we had a chance to really get to know each other and she's the best thing that ever happened to me. Be creative, keep it healthy, and avoid women who have recently been divorced or in relationships. Clarify what it is that YOU want and stick to it. Break off any situation that doesn't conform to your standards and terms. Afterall-YOU need to be happy, and simply finding someone that wants you isn't enough-you have to want them, too. Keep in touch with your intuition-if something doesn't feel right it probably isn't. Keep the power and stay in control.

Don't date a woman on her terms-date her on yours! Try making a list of qualities a woman MUST have to be girlfriend material-trustworthy, giving, tall or short, boyfriend free for x amount of months (I usually recommend 6 months minimum so there is no residual effect or lingering guy hanging around). By all means do NOT date a woman who is still married (seperated) or who is seeing other guys. Once you make your list, it will be easier to distinguish who is, or isn't, a viable candidate. If you don't make a list, then you will be wishy-washy about screening out the undesireables. Just like a list makes it easier to grocery shop, so too does it make it easier to find the woman you want. Have fun with it, don't be too serious at first-keep it light. Don't try to impress her, make her want to find out more about you. Don't be too needy, have a life and make her aware of the fact that you have one. Remember she will be an addition to your life, not your life entirely, at least not at first.

Good luck!

Answer 2

maybe you're not saying the right things at the right time. You could not be searching in the right places for that special someone. Though you may be charming, it doesn't mean that every word out of your mouth to a girl will swipe her off her feet. A technique that I think would probably work with a lot of girls is to be yourself. I'm sure you've heard this before and it doesn't help you much, but seriously... a guy who flaunts the fact that he KNOWS he is good looking, smart, etc, is a turn off! No one wants someone that is egocentric, but they DO want someone who is confident and also shows interest in the other person, but not the the extent of "obsessive/suffocating/nosy..".... meh, dating is complicated. Sorry if this didn't help :o/

Answer 3

I'm on the same boat, except that I'm quite older than most people here.

You're either:

- too nice, by the time you try to start something you are already nothing but a friend.
- too smart, people don't like those who are too smart.
- too short, very few women like short men.
- trying to date outside your social class, a no-no.
- belong to some exotic ethnic group, or are interracial.

Those are the big five, I'd say.

Answer 4

I think you should just be patient, you will eventually get someone that will really care about you. Just don't try to hard, let it happen.
And also be brave if you like someone tell them, don't be shy the worst they can say is no.

Answer 5

well, do you have a girl in mind? if you do just talk to her. and if you wanna keep her take it slow. don't rush play hard to get and you will stay in a longer relationshIp. And if you don't have a girl in mind just wait a little longer waiting doesn't hurt. You always get what you want when your patient.

Answer 6

Have you asked anybody???? That could be a MAJOR problem. And when you do don't fall flat on your face like me. It will make you look like a total idiot. I promise.

Answer 7

You should go out more where you can meet a lot of singles ya know.

Answer 8

find the right girl. if you really are like you say you just have to wait for the right girl to come.

Answer 9

Well I see you are being yourself . My trick is not to look for a girl
and you will see girls will want to be with you. When i go shopping
or go out girls are attracted to me because I stay cool and really don't care if they want to go out with me.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!i hope this help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!