My mother wants my Wife, Son and me to have our picture made to put in the church picture/phone directory. The problem although my wife and I are a member of this Church, we no longer attend this Church. We have not attended in 5 years. We have grown tired of the Lutheran ways and have been going to other Churches to try different denominations. I feel that my mother want us to have this picture made because she is worried what people might think if my family and I do not have our picture in this directory. I told here we did not want to get this picture made but she said "do it for her." I don't like the guilt trip but how do I tell my mother I don’t want to get the picture made and not hurt her feelings? My mother worries herself to death about these kind of thinks that seem like no big deal to me. But I hate to make her cry and then my dad will feel bad and he will get a hard time from here because if this issue. This can drive a family apart. Help Please.
2007-03-07 14:01:55 · 4 answers · asked by Gregg F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think the answer to this is "No, we aren't getting our pictures taken there." It isn't your Mom's decision whether your family goes for pictures or not. I'd recommend that you tell her "no," and offer no excuses. When you give excuses, you open the door for more pressure to change.
2007-03-07 14:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by Faith 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my church taking the picture for the directory was coupled with a chance to purchase a portrait for yourself at a reduced cost. It that's the deal with you, then I'd almost do it for that alone.
If you haven't removed your names from the church's membership roster you may well be listed in the directory, picture or not. If that's the case where's the harm in making your mom happy and maybe getting a photo for yourselves to remember that age in your family.
Even though you're church shopping unless you have major religious convictions to the contrary there's nothing stopping you from doing this.
Of course, if I'm reading your post wrong and you really do have major differences then by all means you have to refuse no matter what your mother feels.
2007-03-08 11:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it over with the pastor. I think he will side with you.
2007-03-07 22:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you say no to her stick by your decision.
2007-03-07 22:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by ruthie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋