What do you think is the right age that you can have sex responsibly at? Is 14 too young?

Question

I'm a 14 year old girl. I have not dated yet. I've never had a boyfriend or even made out with anyone but I have frequent sexual thoughts. Do you think I am too young to be thinking about having sex? What age do you think is right to wait? Should I wait for marriage?

Answer 1

You should do what you feel is right for you. You're certainly not too you to be thinking about it, it's natural to be curious.

You can't really put a set age to it and be like "this is too young and once you have your xth birthday it's alright" or something, like there's some magical date that makes a person ready. People mature at different rates, physically, mentally and emotionally. You're ready When you feel like you want to do it, AND you know what are doing. That includes educating yourself about contraception and STDs, and making intelligent choices about who you choose as a partner.

If you personally have religious beliefs that make you feel you should wait until marriage, then that's what's right for you—but you shouldn't let other people tell you that you have wait because that's what they believe. A big part maturity is being able to make your own decisions.

Answer 2

I think that you are to young and that you should wait. Having sexual thought and desire is a normal part of growing up but the responsibility that come with having sex is much more than a 14 year old can deal with. I lost mine at the age of 14 and to tell you the truth it was much more than I could handle. the emotional wear that it takes on you mind is harder then you could emagine. I wish that I had waited until I was older and could take the responsibilty that it plays on your emotions. You may think that it is a good idea at the time but the after thoughts are the hardest you wonder what if people find out i.e. your parents, what he may say to others why did it I do that you really should wait and make sure that you are in a meaning relationship before you make that step and go into it with a smart mind. I am not saying to wait until you are married but to wait until you can handle the emotional part of it.

Answer 3

You are not too young to be thinking about sex, it is perfectly normal, and fun!

However, you are too young to be having sex. Sex is a very personal and complicated experience, and people can easily get hurt if it goes wrong. There are many issues that go along with sex, like birth control, STD's and love. You definitely need to wait until you are ready, which is out of high school, for sure. Get to know boys as friends, read some books, keep a journal and develop your own thoughts. You also might want to consider spiritual or religious issues, and talk them over with people.

At this stage, the most important thing is for you to be getting to know yourself and gathering information. Don't let anyone push you into anything you are not ready for. Don't party with alcohol or drugs, because that's when you can be taken advantage of. Learn to think for yourself and figure out what you want. You might want to read Mary Pipher's "Reviving Ophelia" which is about adolescent girls, with chapters on relationships with boys and dating.

Answer 4

Masterbate! And wait until you are bit older for this. Talk to an adult you trust about this, they will tell you exactly WHY to wait. At 14 your mind is just young and the responsibilty of sex is large- not just because of pregnancy, but the emotional things. For guys, sex is nothing big as much as for a girl. Girls are more emotional and these things hurt. I culd go on, but I have to go.

Answer 5

You are not to young to think about sex but you are to young to actually be having sex. The best thing is to wait until marriage but that is getting to be a rare thing, I think you and ever person should wait until they are 18.

Answer 6

Yes, fourteen is much to young to be having sex. It best to wait, and take that part of life slowly. It's normal to have sexual thoughts but if you hold off, you will be thankful to yourself for years to come.

Answer 7

oh-my goodness yes 14 is way to young, i believe waiting till you gt married is the right decision,and you'll be proud of yourself,you and your partner will be grateful each-other waited,now i didn't wait, but i was 19 and i did not use protection, stupid me,and i got pregnant my first time,i wawas a single mom, cause dad was a loser, and left when i said i was pregnant, it was a hard life for me and my daughter, but i made it and she's 26 now, but also a single mom, it seems we dint learn through the generations, i think its hereditary?. but for you wait till you marry, it will make it all that much more special, it'll be hard, cause kids think its the in thing, plus your friends may tease you if your still a virgin when they are not, dint worry,tree either jealous, or really not your friends, or just plain stupid. wait it out Hun, you ll be glad you did,good luck and god bless

Answer 8

No way dude! My friend and I are THE MOST perverted you could ever know. We think about sex and doing it 24/7 so no you are not too young.

Answer 9

this is not the matter of age.its true that u r too young but just feel about ur thought that r u feeling emotionaly?if yes its mean u have to do it......becoz in this age every one wants to do sex...but be in a safe manner.....i thing when a person feel about sex its mean he can do in a well sense.

Answer 10

Yes, wait until marriage. Become a born again Christian and go to church and do Christian schooling. That will keep you from thinking about sex. Remember how your husband will feel when you can tell him how pure you have been able to keep yourself for him.