we been dating for almost 2yrs. he was never the initiator from the start. i always have to make the first move. he always gets erections when we joke aorund or play fight or anything like that. if i never initiate it i dont think we would ever have sex! so im asking you guys is it normal that he doesnt ask for it or does he have a low sex drive what? what do i do? ive tried eveything. i want him to want me and jump me! is this normal? ps, hes a great guy though!
2007-03-07 13:57:21 · 2 answers · asked by willow woow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not normal, but it also is not or should not be a big deal. Possible explanations include:
1. He REALLY hates rejection.
2. He really has sexual submissive fantasies.
One way to move forward is to plan a pair of time periods, one in which he'll follow all your reasonable orders and one in which you'll follow all of his. In yours, direct him to the actions that you'd most like -- i.e., ones that simulate him showing some initiative. But also direct him to please you at length (e.g., with his tongue).
Then see what he directs you to.
This game could go a long way toward improving mutual understanding, in a variety of ways ...
2007-03-07 21:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my man is EXACTLY the same way!!!
i am so serious! it is ALWAYZ me who makes the fist move but i know he wants it and he gets hard alot and everything but its still alwayz me initiating it!...i dont know what it is!
but he's tha best sex i ever had....maybe he just doesn't want 2 seem like some kind of horndog...
2007-03-09 01:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by *Gina* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋