I recently broke up with an ex boyfriend of 6 years.. I am graduating from college this summer and I have to start figuring out my next step. I do not want to live at home and plan to move somewhere else-- possibly FL. My home is in philly. My boyfriend said he would never move.. I felt that I shouldnt let anything stop my dreams or my future. He told me that I am a loner.. who wants to leave my family and friends? What do you think of that?
2007-03-07 13:53:26 · 23 answers · asked by Denise G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stick with your plan...
2007-03-09 21:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Denise:
I don't think that you and I are much different...except I know that I am a loner...and you may be questioning yourself that a "loner" is a negative word. Not so!
I do like people. But, as pompous as this may sound, I love myself and I love my privacy. I don't have all the answers, but I believe that I am happy and make others happy too.
The most important thing in life is loving yourself (not physically only kidding).
You do not have to be selfish with others, and I don't think that you are. I think, from the little information that you have provided, you are a helpful and caring person. That's a good quality.
I'm guessing that you are in your early twentis. Do not let the emotional side of you, via a boyfriend, drag you down or give you a guilt trip.
You are on the right course. Become independant fiirst. When you feel comfortable that you can make it on your own...all the pieces will fit together.
Graduate first. Then in about 6 months the peices of your life will start to make you a happy person.
Take care,
The "Sunshine Man".
2007-03-07 14:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by bob P11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To a certain extent, I'd say that everybody is a loner, and there is nothing wrong with that.
Occasionally, it is good to spend time alone to reflect on life, without distraction.
Your ex boyfriend sounds like a prat. Call it sour grapes for splitting up.
2007-03-07 13:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a loner isn't a bad thing.... but that's not what this sounds like... sounds like you have a good idea of where you want to be in your life, and he doesn't want to be there with you. He's afraid to move on, you're ready to move on.
Being in a relationship for 6 years doesn't really meet the description of "loner" does it? Sounds like you're more of a "mover."
Good luck!
2007-03-07 13:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by kelannde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are moving toward the future that you want to have, and the future that you want is moving and does not necessarily include him. There is nothing wrong with that, it doesn't mean you are anything in particular. I think your boyfriend is a little hurt, which is understandable. Move ahead, full steam, with no regrets.
2007-03-07 14:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a loner is not making yourself available for others. If he sees you having a goal and chasing after your career as being a loner, maybe he is just afraid of being left behind. Maybe he is afraid of being alone himself and is projecting that onto you! I say go after what you want in life because no one is going to do it for you! No matter what he says, just do what makes you happiest!
2007-03-07 14:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by Magicflower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you were a loner, but maybe an independent kinda girl. I feel the same way and there is NOTHING wrong with your mentality. Maybe it's better you guys are exes, his attitude doesn't seem to mesh with yours....
2007-03-07 13:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a brave soul, an adventurer and someone not afraid of life. Go for it! You can always come home for visits and phones and email still work. Your ex sounds like a fraidy cat.
2007-03-07 13:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by Guess Who? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump the guy, move to wherever you want, and start a new life.
Sounds like to me that he's a sort of 'Mama's Boy', meaning he has no intention of moving anywhere. He's comfortable where he is....and he's staying.
2007-03-07 13:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by melissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on why you want to move. Do you think that by simply moving elsewhere that all your dreams will come true? It usually doens't work out that way.
2007-03-07 13:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say your right and to go follow your dream.
Yoour ex is a an ******.don't listen to him your not a loner.
2007-03-07 13:56:42 · answer #11 · answered by hannahbannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋