Is it wrong, does age matter?

Question

I am 17 and I want to be with a 14 year old guy and his family loves me but they dont know about us. Please tell me what you think. "Things" have happened between us and i dont know what to do.

He is very mature and so am I. He doesnt even look 14 everyone even his family say he looks 18 and they are proud of him for being so mature.

Answer 1

well go out wit him, i guess. if yall in love, y not? i know i would want to tell people i go out wit a 17 year who look good (just saying cause im sure u look good). and just tell ur parents about it. and if things have happened then u might as well go out wit him.

Answer 2

Well.......

Your 17 and he is 14, your on your way to becoming an adult and he is still thinking about what game he should get next for his Xbox.
I would think this is a bad idea, besides the fact that he probably is not mature enough to handle a relationship that has a sexual side to it (I take it thats what you mean by "Things") and could end up not knowing how to handle things as they progress. And if your relationship lasts to the point when you turn 18 you will find that some "Things" are not exactly legal between an adult and a minor. That may not be so in your state, but I know that you can end up in jail in CA. Besides all of that, I don't know how well things will work with the 3 year difference, considering both of you are still in your teens and the different stages of emotional level could cause problems.
My two cents.

Answer 3

Everyone's saying stuff about it being illegal, but most people don't pay attention to that law, anyway.. unless his parents really hate you and have it out for you, then you should be fine... and you said they like you, so you're not gonna go to jail.

But I do think that you guys should wait until you're older. It's not about age, but about maturity. He's just hitting puberty and getting used to the whole "dating" thing... and you're in a completely different arena when it comes to that. Teenage years tend to differ a lot... but when you're like, 25 and he's 22, that doesn't sound bad at all, b/c you've both matured.

If you can, wait until you're both older so you can actually give the r-ship a chance, b/c with the maturity difference, there will be too much difference for it to last as long as it could.

And if you can't wait, just go for it. I mean, the world's not gonna end b/c a 14 year old dates a 17 year old... just have fun and be careful doing whatever you choose to do! :)

Answer 4

Most likely you're breaking the law. He's underage and in most states you're "of age", making it a crime. Plus some states have rules about how many years of age difference there are.
Basically, you're committing a crime.
His family "loves" you now but how would they react when they hear that you, an adult basically, did "things" with their 14 year old son who is still a child? This is no different than a 17 year old guy and a 14 year old girl, which is just as wrong.
If you get caught you'll go to jail. You'll have to register as a sex offender, too. You'll be marked as a sex offender, specifically a child molester, for the rest of your life. Is some 14 year old boy's attention worth that risk? I don't think so, not at all.
On another note, what exactly do you, as a 17 year old girl, see in a 14 year old boy? You're driving and going off to college real soon. He's just starting high school. 17 year old boys are immature enough but a 14 year old?
I think you should stop seeing him IMMEDIATELY and start to seek help from a therapist, counselor or certified social worker. You can ask you guidance counselor to help you find one and you don't have to tell your G.C. what it's about. Please, seek help very soon. I'd hate to see your life ruined because of this.

Answer 5

There is no wrong or right as you are very young. "Things" that happened should be treated as past and you can only look forward to a new day and new experience. With regards to his family loving you and all that, I think their love for you is like the love for their own children. So take it slow and enjoy the friendship and take it in your stride. Don't rush into matters that you cannot handle. Be cautious when mixing around with friends. Good luck.

Answer 6

to be honest, the age differenec itself, 3 yrs, isnt a big deal....but at your age, it is. he is toooo young at 14, even illegal if you two were to be seen dating or kissing ect... the best thing to do is try to find some guys your own age, and wait it out... it would be a different story if the guy you liked was 20 and you were 23....it doesnt look so bad that way, nor would it be illegal...its hard, i know...but sometimes, things happen the way they do for a reason....

Answer 7

You already know this is wrong. Why are you stealing'em from the crib. This boy is not only too young for you he is nearly too young to be dating anyone. What is wrong with older boys your age? Are you afraid of them or something. perhaps you need to mature a bit more yourself and stop hanging out with the kindergarten set.

Answer 8

You do need to be open and honest with his family, because while it may be only 3 years, you are dealing with a minor. Messy and hurtful things can be avoided very early on if people are honest up front :)

Answer 9

Damn girl.......robbing the cradle a bit arent you?.....Id back away from that. No offence.

I myself would never date a guuy younger than me......immaturaty is obvious. Imagine if you do date him and he gets a year or 2 older and his hormones really start to hit hard.....he will go a bit nuts on that note.....Idk just think of all the possiblities of his age first....You'll more than likely end up dealing with alot of bullshit.

Answer 10

It seems alittle odd, but I've heard worse. The only thing that could be bad is if you turn 18, have sex and his parents don't like it. They could charge you with statutory rape. If that happened you could actually go to jail.