I have this person bothering me... i want to hurt him bad and problem i am a peaceful guy. But he is pushing it. I can turn very violent. Trying to let him understand. But he think I am another one of those victims. I will go like a furious manic on him. Again I am peaceful guy. Help plz.
2007-03-07 13:23:50 · 5 answers · asked by goldenjir 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
sounds like he's a real jerk. try putting a half smile on your face (not a smile, just a bit of one) and that may make you feel a bit more serene. Then there is the count to 10 trick. Counting to 10 before you say or do anything gives you a breather to get yourself under control.
good luck! I liked nina's answer too
2007-03-07 13:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's hard.
But...not knowing any further details, I think that one way to approach this is to summarily ignore him.
It sounds like he wants to provoke you really badly. Maybe so he can then say it was YOU who started the whole thing? And then it'll look like it was all your fault.
This is a tough situation to be in. But if you take the high road, you'll also get a reputation for being a real good guy who has his emotions under control. And that'll go a long way.
Well, and I can tell you...from my point of view...women like it a lot when a guy can control himself and stays calm. It's like a guy like that is a solid rock and he can protect and make a woman feel safe and she never has to be afraid of him. Just saying.... Women look out for stuff like that.
2007-03-07 21:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by Nina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nina's answer is right on the money. Ignore the guy, period. Bullies feed off of the emotional reaction you have to them. Take the reaction away, and they're left saying "dang! what do i do now?". Also, you seem extremely enraged by this thing, and if you keep letting it build up inside you, you might end up putting this kid in the hospital. That's something you definitely DON'T want, TRUST ME!!!
2007-03-07 21:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by josh m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 days before New Year's Eve a neighbor threat me to cut my throat with his knife ... So i can understand "this awful rage" !
* Report him to police in a peacefull manner if the situation is appropriate. "It's the only way" he understands that has to stop.
* He wants you to feel anger ? Why give him satisfaction ?
* To "burn the explosive anger", I jog, box, etc
And I'm asking myself what should I learn from this kind of problems. How can I make it a optimal life experience.
Sometimes works for me. :))
2007-03-09 12:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by Costi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go 2 peekvid and watch the movie the secret
2007-03-07 21:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋