he ll try to play with take her bye bye. clean her up give her a bath and help try potty train!!! She fine when I am not around as soon as i am in sight when both of us are in the room she starts crying when he does things for her!!! whats wrong with her
2007-03-07 13:16:12 · 12 answers · asked by jen 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
hehehehhe she sounds like a normal kiddie.
have you ever had a rellie or friend watch her for you and when you come home she cries? and yr friend says "she was perfect when you were out?"
She is playing you hun LOL.. she wants you to feel bad for leaving her or letting someone else help her..
They learn all about guilt trips early dont they?
Maybe reassure her that mummy isnt far and boyfriend etc is wanting to help like mummy does.
She sounds so gorgeous!
2007-03-07 13:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by who_me? 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Whether he's doing something or not, you should definitely check it out.
But, even if he's not, she just wants her Mom and she doesn't want you giving him any attention.
My little girl has the best dad in the world, but doesn't want me giving him "her" attention. On the flip side, my little man has had enough of me every time dad graces the doorway -- he adores his dad and could care less if I'm around.
My kids are 4 and 2 and I think I read somewhere that kids this age identify more strongly with an adult of the same sex. This could be the case with your little girl.
I really like the answer about asking her .... No matter what's bugging her about him, you NEED to ask her. My 2 year old has no trouble explaining to me when something's wrong. 3 is leaps and bounds ahead of 2!!
2007-03-07 13:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ash 7828 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like mom of twins says, you need to think on this. How do you know she is fine when you're not around? Is that what he says? Or someone else says? I only say this because you mention the times she gets upset are about intimacy, bathtime, bedtime, using the pot. You haven't said she gets upset when you're eating dinner, playing outside, going to the shop or park, visiting family or friends.
I wouldn't want suggest your partner has done anything to upset your daughter, perhaps when you are there she just wants her mum around to do those things instead, and why not she's still little. I'd listen to your instincts and her. You don't say how well or long she has known your boyfriend. Trust takes a long time to develop and when it comes to such personal things we must be guided by our instincts and children.
2007-03-07 13:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by kittyfreek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red Flag!! Her crying when you come into the room is a HUGE sign. She's telling you something is happening to her when you aren't around. If I were you, I'd invest in a Nanny Cam or set up some other sort of camera in various rooms, and watch what he's doing. If something is happening to her, take your tapes and your daughter to the police ASAP!
2007-03-07 17:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by insomniacprincess2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he the father? Because if he is not then he probabaly has very little patience for her. I dont mean to judge but studies have shown that males are much more likely to physically or sexually abuse a child that is not theirs, especially if he resents that you have that child. Even if its not abuse, he still probably gets fed up way easier than you do
2007-03-07 13:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by lovebug512 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your daughter misses you when you are not around. Remember, the closest bond a child usually has is with her mother. If she cries everytime she sees you when he wants to do something with her, maybe she really wants you to do things with her.
2007-03-07 13:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that he is doing something, so ask her. Kids know more than we give them credit for. Make sure she knows that if he IS doing something, that if she tells you, she won't be in trouble.
With that being said, it is really more likely that she is just more used to you and would perfer to have you be the one helping her if you are around.
2007-03-07 13:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by jefftechcrew2006 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your her mom and she wants your attention. My son is fine until my husband gets home then he doesnt want a thing to do with me.
2007-03-07 13:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by deogee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He says she's fine or you actually know she's fine when you're not around.
2007-03-07 13:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by The Big Shot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's trying to impress you, and he's ruining things? That's my first guess.
2007-03-07 14:05:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋