It is starting to stress me out talking to both of them because I deeply love my ex and I know he reciprocates. It's just that my ex has broken up with me twice in seven years always for the reason that he doesn't want marriage yet and he feels pressured and is confused if he wants a relationship.The first breakup lasted 1 month, then we were back together for more than 2 years. This recent breakup was 3 months ago. I have since met someone new who at first was supposed to be someone I was using to help me with the pain of the breakup, but now I find that I genuinely like this new guy and he holds many qualities I admire in a partner. When I ask my ex if he is ready to get back together he says yes, but something inside of me feels reluctant because I don't want to be with him for another year and then have my heart broken again. So,do I break it off with the new guy and give my ex my 100% or do I hold onto the new guy knowing full well I could be leading him on if we get back together
2007-03-07 13:03:35 · 11 answers · asked by misssac 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems that you are fighting against what common sense, your intuition, and what the people on this forum are trying to tell you...let the past be the past.
Stop going on that same roller-coaster ride with your ex. How many times must you crash and burn with him before you realize that he is not the one.
It seems as if you have a great boyfriend NOW. Why get him involved in some crazy Jerry-Springer type love triangle? You wouldn't like it, understand, or appreciate it if he did it to you, so please decide.
My advice would be to stay with your current boyfriend. But the most important thing you must do in this situation is make a decision because it is not fair to anyone involved for you to be the only one who gets to have her cake and eat it too.
2007-03-07 13:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by fenway2k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No experience here, but my personal opinion is that he cannot commit. Seven years is a very long time to be together, but the fact that he has repeatedly broken up with you doesn't speak well for him. Before you would get back together, I would ask him if you're wasting your time or if he's going to seriously commit to you this time possibly with marriage down the line, etc. If he's not ready or cannot give you a straight answer, I recommend staying with the new guy.
Good luck!
2007-03-07 21:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy of 2 Girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the new guy has been good to you so far and hasnt shown any signs that he may treat you bad or even break it off with you, why would you boot him to the curb? your ex sent you on your way twice, why wouldnt he do it again? i dated someone for over 7 years and we broke up a few times, and the final break up was the best thing that could have happened....even all of my friends said the same....people are EX'S for a reason... what would happen if you dump your current boyfriend only to get dumped by your ex? you wouldnt be too happy would you? dont break it off with the new guy.... give him more time to prove that he is better than your ex
2007-03-07 21:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you said ex, I thought you where talking about your husband.
I am sorry for you, that you give this ex that much of your time and are still unmarried.
He is very unstable if he still does not know about commitment. Why give him more time.
Get over him, he's a loser honey.
Are you going to wind up 7 years from now where you are today ?
Look for a real man. Real men know what they want.
Good luck to you~~~~~Jill
2007-03-07 21:20:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAVEN'T U ALREADY GIVEN YOUR EX 100% ? SOUND AS IF U MAY HAVE. REMEMBER WHAT IT WAS LIKE THE FIRST WEEK HE WAS GONE. GO BACK TO HIM AND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE MAY BE LIKE THAT. U CAN NOT CHANGE HIM AND CAN NOT GET HIM TO COMMIT AND IF U HAVE TO CONVINCE HIM TO COMMIT,,THE NEXT TIME HE LEAVES AND HE WILL, YOU WILL BLAME YOURSELF AND SOMEONE . ELSE WILL BE OUT WITH NEW GUY. IF NEW GUY IS A GOOD GUY HE WILL NOT BOUNCE BACK AND FORTH WITH SOMEONE BOUNCING IN AND OUT WITH AN EX. ,,,,GOOD LUCK,ENJOY NEW GUY A WHILE LONGER AND LET YOUR HEART AND MIND SETTLE FOR YOU,,TIME WILL TELL. HAVE A FRIEND WHO DATED GUY 3 YEARS HIGH SCHOOL AND THROUGH HIS COLLEGE,MOTORCYCLE,BOAT,CARS, WANTED TO KEEP HER BUT COULDNT COMMIT. SHE MARRIED ANOTHER FRIEND OF MINE AND THEY HAVAE 2 GREAT KIDS,,TOGETHER 8 YEARS NOW.
2007-03-07 21:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by debbyjo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's very tough but i would say hold onto o the new guy and don't give Ur ex another chance, he wont change TRUST ME
2007-03-07 21:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by kissingislove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it didn't work the first time, it probably won't work a second. Wait it out. See if the new guy is the one for you, then make a decision.
2007-03-07 21:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by kdd_angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep seeing your new friend. If your ex really wants to continue seeing you there is no reason you can't see him also. Don't sent yourself up for failure again just yet.
2007-03-07 21:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously that ex guy is a jerk. be careful he jus wants your body. choose the one you wan to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-03-07 21:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by answer machine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well , thats tough, but you should stick with the new person.
2007-03-07 21:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋