i have a boyfriend whos 3 years older than me and im a freshman in high school. Originally i relaly tohught he liked me and we messed around a bit. when i finally got fed up with it i told him i wanted a more serious reltionship and that i was saving myself for the guy i wanted to marry. He said he doesn't know what to tihnk because that isn't what he wants. Every time we talk he says "Well there is option A. we have a serious relationship, option B. we break up, and i dont like either of those or option C. i cheat on you"
i feel like he is threatening me to do things or he will cheat or break up with me. I honestly think i love him but how do i deal with this?
2007-03-07 12:39:14 · 11 answers · asked by drummergrrl2004 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're in high school honey. Losing him may seem like the end of the world but once you walk down the procession and toss your hat in the air, it's all over. Your virginity, however, is something you will regret losing if you're not ready. Ask yourself, in ten years, which will I miss more, some loser guy who only wanted me if I put out, or my innocence and the ability to share that moment with someone who really loved me?
2007-03-07 12:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Misty P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is putting pressure on you - to try and make you do something you are not ready for.... IF he loved you - he would be more understanding about it.
HE would not be threatening to CHEAT on you - IF he loved you.
YOU did not goof up by telling him you wanted to save yourself for the one you want to marry, HE has goofed up by being a complete JERK!
Option B? Well, sounds good to me, YOU dont need someone in your life like this tosser! YOU would be better off without him, and Im sure you could find another guy who might think that what you want to do is great. You WILL get over him, and honestly, how do you know he isnt playing around now anyways!
Best of luck!
2007-03-07 20:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by Eve M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. first of all: Option A is out of the question because he said he doesn't want a serious relationship. He also doesn't want to break up ( but since you guys don't actually have a relationship..he's basically sayin he just wants to still be able to fool around with you..and he is probably already gettin w/ other girls)
if you stay with him- you will be miserable and he will eventually get sick of your bitching.
If you break up with him you will eventually move on and be happy b/c u r still so young.
this guy is an asshole. don't let him use you
2007-03-07 20:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by gorgeousbabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your instincts. If you feel like he's threatening you, break it off. It may hurt you to call the relationship off, but it'll hurt even worse if you invest more of your emotions in someone who may go with option B or C. He shouldn't have even laid out those options to you like that if he really cared for you. He sounds callous which is unfortunate for you.
2007-03-07 20:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by lilcurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to love him but that doesnt mean you have to do whatever he tells you to do. Do you really want to sleep with someone who is threatening to cheat on you? Let him go. Itll be hard at first, but it fades and you move on and then youll look back and ask yourself what the h e double hockey stick you were thinking!
2007-03-07 20:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest if he is pressuring you then he isnt the right guy for you...he shouldnt be giving u ultimatums like this...i knoe you say that u r in love but give ur self some time and u will be able to heal...you will find the rite guy who will want to be serious with you...you are a rare person to find who wants to save urself until marriage so give up that principle for someone like him
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-03-07 20:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by queenz_killarep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't respect your decision to wait for the man you want to marry than you don't need him, the right one is out there and he isn't it or he wont be pushing you to do something your not ready to do, DO NOT give in to him, he will only hurt you more.
2007-03-07 20:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,
i think if you really like him, you should try to talk yo him and work it out.If hes unwilling and wants everything to go his way, i would dump his but and move on because i know there is someone else out there that is willing to be a better boyfreind than what yours is right now.
2007-03-07 20:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by brittany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt love you, now he's looking at hanging out with freshman girls in college. guys are jerks. it's something you need to realize! break up with him, and find someone that will make you happy.
2007-03-07 20:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by John Redcorn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him then youre willing to sacrifice whatever youre having troubles with, but youre not, so why dont u just let it go
2007-03-07 20:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by lachica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋