we just found out that my great aunt died a few hours ago.We are all very sad but my dad is even more so. This is the first time i have ever seen my father cry and im at a loss on how to comfort him. Someone help me please
2007-03-07 12:32:51 · 8 answers · asked by littlemoments 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Geeze, this just happened a few hours ago? Well, unless you don't have a natural inclination to console and be supportive, I would at least get away from your Computer if I were you and go sit with your Dad and just give him hugs and words of comfort and support.
Stay around him, and be there for him. Even if he doesn't want to talk, just being in his presence would be good.
Of course I don't know if you are in the same house with him, but, even if not; I would drive over there if this is the case and just be supportive. If this doesn't apply,......spend time with him, and tell him if he wants to talk or anything that you'll be there for him.
It's good for him to cry, and encourage him to let it out and grieve as much as possible. It;s healthy and since you never saw this before, he may have denied himself this natural outlet for most his life.
My symapthy and empathy goes out to all of you. I know if I lost any of my Sisters I would fall apart, as I would any relative that means or has meant much to me.
2007-03-07 12:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very empathetic to want to help and comfort your dad. The very best thing you can do is just be a loving presence, and let him talk if he feels like it.
Sometimes people are very uncomfortable with others who are grieving -- it is hard to see their tears -- so they make the mistake of trying to distract the person, etc., or "make them feel better."
Your dad has lost an important part of his history -- his sister. When he is ready, you might ask him to tell you some of his memories about growing up with her -- what they were like as kids -- adventures they had -- times when they helped each other, etc. See if he has any photos he'd like to show you.
Tell him you love him and that you are sorry for his loss, and that you understand that it is painful.
Good luck, and God bless!
2007-03-07 12:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him, Let him know that he's not alone and you will always be there for him. It is probably very hard for him right now because like you said you have never seen him cry, he is i would guess a private man.
My dad and husband are like that as well.
If he needs a hug be there to give it to him, if he needs someone to talk to be there to listen. That's all you can do for him sweetie.
2007-03-07 13:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mum died a little time ago and i found the best support for me was just knowing someone was their if i needed them my heart goes out to your family susan
2007-03-11 06:35:20 · answer #4 · answered by susiesnowdrop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very hard to lose someone that you love. just be there for him let him know that you care, and love him. thats really all you can do. time will heal. sorry about the lost in your family.
2007-03-07 13:18:35 · answer #5 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have carried out each and every thing you're able to do. you have reached out to her. and he or she purely desires her time. All you're able to do now's say "in case you prefer something, i'm right here. don't be afraid to call."
2016-10-17 12:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by fugere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hug him and be there for him as much as you can. Love and support help alot
2007-03-07 13:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by Laura G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cry and hug him. be there for him. theres not much you can do...but talk to him and listen to him. you need to be strong for your dad.
2007-03-07 12:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋