The first time i am going to go and stay with my boyfriend and i feel so guilty about it , because the last time he visited me , we did a little bit of intimacy and i was so feeling guilty that i had done something wrong . But now i have to go and stay with him in his house for 10 days and i am sure he is going to have sex with me and i am going to feel very bad after that , i love him a lot and cannot tell him that i dont want to have sex with him for he will think i dont like him , why do i feel guilty , can someone explain that there is nothing wrong with that , i met him on shaadi .com and we both decided that we are for each other , and due to some issues cannot marry him for 5 months
2007-03-07 12:31:52 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
have sex with me. I won't feel guilty.
2007-03-07 12:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
He is not going to think you don't like him if you don't have sex with him. Guys manipulate girls into thinking that so that they will have sex with them. Think about why you feel guilty. You don't HAVE to go stay with him for 10 days. Nobody ever has to do anything. You don't really sound like you like him. And I don't think you guys are right for each other. Think about the reasons why you can't marry him for 5 more months..
2007-03-07 12:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by gorgeousbabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never feel guilty about sex if you feel good and have a good time sex is wonderful and we need to have and enjoy because life is to short sometimes for some of us,we are here today and gone tomorrow.You wouldn't want something to happen and never be able to experience how good you could feel and how good you make someone feel.
2007-03-07 12:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont the issues of why u cant marry him, but i believe you are feeling guilty cause maybe cause of the issues but i believe if he loves you that will be no reason he should not make you do what you dont want too. the guilt is more than likely cause of some issues that is with the situation u cant get married and feel that u are doin something wrong. i dont know cause i dont the issues as said. good luck
2007-03-07 12:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by bigbadwolf10376 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. Sex is a strong way to communicate strong emotions to someone you love. However, if you do not wish to have sex yet, then you only poison yourself by continuing it. A friend of mine had the same problem... I would suggest that the best way to approach it would be to explain to him that you have very strong feelings for him and love to be with him. After effectively communicating this, explain to him that you feel this way, but do not feel comfortable having sex before marriage. Explain clearly that there is nothing wrong with you nor with him, but that if he wants to make you feel the best while you guys are together, he would respect your emotions and avoid pressuring you to sex. If he really cares for you, he will see how sincere you are and put you first.
I hope this helps.
2007-03-07 12:42:02 · answer #5 · answered by dacoofoo247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, slow down there! It just means you're not ready, for whatever reason. Talk to him about it - not just saying you don't want to have sex with him, but tell him what you are feeling. Of course he wants to have sex with you, but if he is the kinda guy you say he is, he'll wait for you to be ready. Talking to him may even help you work through why you feel the way you do. Aim to spend those 10 days getting to know each other - you'll be glad you did!
2007-03-07 12:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go, you're going to regret it. So don't.
Look. You already feel bad for doing whatever you've already done. Why in the world would you choose to love someone who doesn't care about your feelings and values?
If he doesn't care about how you feel, why would you want to have sex with him?
You really need to dump this guy and start using your head. Decide what your values are, decide how you will demand to be treated, and what you deserve in a relationship. Then look for someone who is actually compatible with your ideals.
2007-03-07 12:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you feel guilty because of your values, then don't be physically intimate yet. If he really wants to marry you, I'm sure he can wait five months. And why are you sure he is going to have sex with you? You have a choice here- if he forces you to have sex, then it is rape- as long as you tell him no- and make it clear. If he would rape you, then he is not worth marrying.
2007-03-07 12:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how long have you known him? If not very long tell him you want to get to know him better before doing anymore or tell him you want to be married explain that it made you feel guilty for abandanon your morals. Good Luck and do not do anything you do not want to do!
2007-03-07 12:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my BF at 16 and only gave myself to him at 19. He was willing to wait and being intimate with a person involves so much more than just the physical. U have to be emotionally ready as well for what it means. There r no gaurantees in anything but luckily for me we r still together. Try not to stress. If u r meant to be together forever then it will all play out the way it should. If u over think it, u r going to create problems that r not there. Just be with ur BF and if u gave urself to him for the wrong reasons (to keep him) then u have a problenm coz u did what u think he wanted and not what u wanted. Nothing lasts forever just enjoy what u have right now.
2016-03-28 22:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone has told you that sex is wrong - possible your mother. All mothers teach their children that but they do not always obey. Be sure to wear protection. Guilt, on the other hand is just a wasted emotion and it never accomplishes anything. If you can't enjoy it, don't have it. I wouldn't.
2007-03-07 12:42:49 · answer #11 · answered by solotrovo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋