Ok...so this is going to be complicated. I currently have a boyfriend one in whom I have a child with. We have been together for about five years now and I just am not happy anymore. I currently like another guy who in return likes me too. So what would you do? Would you dump the boyfriend who doesn't make you happy anymore? or would you date the new guy???
2007-03-07 12:14:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why date someone you're not happy with? I thought we got past "staying together for the children" by the end of the 50's.
If you're unhappy there's no reason to stay with him, but are you unhappy or just bored and looking for something new and exciting? I'm not saying this is bad, but you have to be honest with yourself. If you're in a good relationship that just needs a kick start of excitiement you'll be one more amongst thousands of relationships out there.
Start asking yourself why you're not happy. Be honest with yourself. If you find you're just looking for something new an exciting, remember that nothing stays new forever and this new guy will loose his luster eventually too. 5 years is about the point where many relatioships need a bit of a kick to get them going again. They find themselves in a rut and need to try something new or maybe harken back to their old "courting" days (that means when you where young, stupid and dating lol).
But if you find that after looking closely that you don't love you current guy, aren't happy, and that the realtioship is not one you want to be in then do what you need to do. But remember, this is the father of your child and he WILL end up being a part of your life from now on no matter what.
I would suggest taking a little time afterwards before getting into another relationship. Give your head time to clear. Sometimes something looks good because we're not in a good place, but once you're up close it's not what you thought. Take a little time to be by yourself and redefine your situation with the baby's father.
Remember, "Fools rush in..."
2007-03-07 12:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by zen_cop 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ohh, that is a tough one. I think that if your not happy then break up with the current boyfriend. Theres no point in staying in a reltionship where your not happy, even if you think it is the best thing for your child.
2007-03-07 12:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by lozzy_x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date the guy who makes you the happiest.
What use is there being miserable for the rest of your life?
I'm sure you can make some sort of agreement concerning the child, like part time visits. It'll work out:D
2007-03-07 12:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I would not stay with someone who doesn't make me happy when there was someone else who did. I'd make sure that he would still be around to be a good father for my child, but that doesn't mean your whole life has to be miserable...
2007-03-07 12:18:24 · answer #4 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do what makes you happy. I have learned that from years of my mom being with my dad whom she dose not like. You gotta do whats right for you and dont wory about what people have to say about it. Its your life and you NEED to be happy with it. Good luck.
2007-03-07 12:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by meow8384 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the boyfriend
2007-03-07 12:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Richard D 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is the boyfriend a good daddy,you have that to think about first.
2007-03-07 12:18:10 · answer #7 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
stay with your baby's father. you would have to be heartless to leave him
2007-03-07 12:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by Riddles 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
YES
2007-03-07 12:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by Tom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋