The sitter has other children her age, but she doesn't seem to want to interact and often plays by herself. At home, she is very lively and talkative with me and her father and her cousins. But at the babysitters she seems to cry a lot and is very shy. Does anyone have any tips for us. Oh and she is 20 months of age.
2007-03-07 11:31:02 · 10 answers · asked by Melanie P 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I guess you could say that she is a mommy's girl. I've been with her pretty much each second of each day and have just decided to go back to school. The sitter says she settles down after a little bit and only cries if someone says "mommy". But, I was just wondering if other parents had little ones who just cried when they were left alone. Thanks for the answers.
2007-03-07 14:52:39 · update #1
I have kids that cry every day when they are dropped off. They do it because they know mom will stay longer or hold them a little longer. I tell the parents, just go, they'll be fine. No sooner than they are out of sight, the kid stops it. Maybe she is doing it for attention? About being shy..some kids are just shy and like to play on their own.
2007-03-07 12:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by army_sister785 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We have a daycare and we have a boy who comes here and still does that and we have been watching him for a year and he is 26 months. But in his case he is extremely coddled at moms and is a big momma's boy. Every child is different. Make sure you check to see how much interaction she gets. I do know that much of our kids do the best when the start at 6 weeks old, but since that can't be arranged now. Take some stuff that makes her more comfortable at home. Or If she likes to dance you can take some kids music over there and ask them to play it and engage her in some play. It sounds like she needs more attention there that she used to getting at home and sometimes its hard when there are other children. Look over your options and decide what works for you. Some kids are more sensitive then others. Good luck.
2007-03-07 21:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by Baby Julie due 5/12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That makes me so sad to hear. Can you find another babysitter? 6 weeks is a long time for her to still be doing that. I would first consultat your doctor to make sure this isn't just a "phase" and then maybe if that doesn't work find a new babysitter. I'm concerned to hear she's not happy to see this lady.
If your sure its not the babysitter then maybe go to the babysitters place and stay for the first 20-30 minues to warm her up to everything.
Does she have self soothing problems? Maybe make sure she always has her favorite blanket or teddy bear.
Good luck!
2007-03-07 20:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by BabyQuestions 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a child doesn`t take to a sitter, just like you don`t take to another person. Try a different sitter. I just got two new kids, and they cried a little for about a week and then they come to my house and their arms are ready for hugs!! Some kids may be slow to warm up, and then sometimes the caregiver just isn`t responsive.. I always hold my arms out for hugs!!
2007-03-07 19:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by lost2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can ask her questions and get answers out of her, ask her why... she'll tell you... if she's talkative discuss it with her... there may be a problem
Also, you may wanna look into actual daycare... i know people worry about daycares being uncaring, but I worked at a really good one and it helps kid socialize at young ages and it might be more beneficial towards their mental development, maybe moreso than a babysitter because they have routines and teach them the alphabet and then there's dance time or art time etc..
2007-03-07 19:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by the nothing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may just be used to being with you. A few of the kids I work with still cry when their parents leave after going there for a couple of years.
2007-03-07 21:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by jefftechcrew2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since you have been home with her all her life try to take her to a reletive that she is ok with and leave her for a while. Do this a couple times a week to try to get her unattached to you. You might also check to make sure everything is ok at daycare.
2007-03-08 14:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by happy bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor girl, she probably wants her mummy. Maybe sing her the song- "When my mommy comes back". You can look up the lyrics on yahoo answers, or yahoo/google
2007-03-07 21:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you sure everything is going ok at the sitters? maybe she is being picked on or someone has done something to her. you might want to check it out.
2007-03-07 19:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by dynamite136 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor baby. She wants and needs to be home with her mommy.
2007-03-07 20:01:30 · answer #10 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋