I babysit for her 2 kids on occasion. Recently, my SIL has been dating a man from India. Now, all she cooks is Indian food, which her kids hate. She makes stuff with coconut and ginger and big pieces of onion--- not stuff kids like! But when I babysit, she tells me to make them eat it. I DONT make them eat it though. Today I made them cheese sandwiches. What do you think? Is she out of her mind? It seems unfair to the kids to me.
2007-03-07 11:27:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is out of her mind. Her kids should be her first priority, not some guy who may come and go.Her kids are hers for life.
2007-03-07 11:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not "out of her mind," but caught up in the whirlwind of "love." You need to sit her down and have a talk with her. If she breaks up with him and starts dating a down-home man who's all into Southern cooking will she forget the Indian food and start making all Southern food? The only people it will hurt is the KIDS and she needs reminded of that. Just because she's dating someone else, she needs to understand that it's going to really confuse those kids! And, you're right. It is unfair to the kids. Specifically the part where "if it doesn't work out." Someone else walks in and she completely engulfs herself in the "flavor of the week" so to speak, the kids are forced to just go along with it. That's not right. You definitely need to speak out about it to her.
Good luck!!
2007-03-07 19:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy of 2 Girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think kids should be made to eat ethnic food. If they like it fine. I've never eaten Indian food but I do know that ginger has a strong taste. I love it but I'm sure I wouldn't have as a child. Many kids don't like onions no matter what food you are cooking. When I was little my dad would cook with cilantro and it was the nastiest thing to me. Now I love it. Children's taste buds are different. There is nothing wrong with exposing your kids to different cultures but I don't think they should be forced to eat it if they try it and don't like it.To me the main concern should be the children's health and development. If my son wouldn't eat ethnic food, I would make him something healthy that he would eat.
2007-03-07 19:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by iceemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God yes you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. If the kids ain't used to eating Indian food and they obviously don't like it why make them. Let her eat it or scrape some dog crap from outside and tell her it's your new delicacy and she has to eat every last bit or you can't watch the kids and see if she likes to be forced, you keep on feeding those kids what they prefer and i can guarantee they will be happy little Vegemite's
2007-03-07 19:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not out of her mind. Just doing to much to try and impress her new man. Talk to her, and tell her it's fine for them to eat it now and then, or even for her to all the time. But it is unfair to her children to be brought up one way, then switch to something completely different for a new man. Will it be like this every time she dates a man of a different race????
2007-03-07 19:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mandy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she's probably trying to please her new boyfriend and getting her kids to try something new. But you're right-kids don't have adult's taste. So stick to your cheese sandwiches and hope for the best...
and before the kids get totally turned off in the future to new foods, tell them you're proud of them for trying new foods and tell them that its ok if they don't like it-but to try it once.
2007-03-07 19:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by Niki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should remember that her kids are first but they also need to respect their new dad and the new traditions. I think she should have gradually introduced the food and new culture as to avoid resentment from the kids on the new change forced on them.
2007-03-07 19:42:39 · answer #7 · answered by xicanabear 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is unfair it is good to try something new but if her kids dont like it she should have them eat something else. or have the guy she is dating try her kind of food!
2007-03-07 19:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems a bit crazy, if she starts dating a man from Ethiopia is she just gonna let them starve? i mean sometimes you need to keep your own culture..
2007-03-07 20:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely out of her mind. Hopefully she will come to her senses soon enough and stick to her own race.
2007-03-07 19:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by marisanj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋