ok, last time i told all of you about my gf. if you don't know what im talking about, i wil explain again. ok this is how it goes, my gf whos 23 years old, i been dating for a while now. anyway before she dated me, she had a ex bf, and they made the choice to have a baby, but broke up a few weeks later. anyway she told me she was going to have a baby thats not even mine!. we never had sex, and she said shes going to keep the baby. anyway i came here and asked for advice, and i told her how i felt. i said im glad shes keeping the baby, and im still going to be with her, i love her, and i will help her take care of the baby. im 18, and my 23 year old gf is having a baby thats not mine, but i made the choice to stay. i got a job, and i can help her if she needs it. were not getitng married, and she said shes never going to see her ex again. i love her, and if that means baby sitting the baby if she has to go somewhere, i won't mind. what are your thoughts on this? and be 100% hones
2007-03-07 11:22:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get the heck away from her asap!
I suggest you enlist in the Navy and see the world before you
tie yourself down at a very young age.
Let her baby's daddy do the right thing.
You will regret this for the rest of your life!!
2007-03-07 11:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by saltydunes24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by she's going to have a baby that's not even yours?..I mean did she tell you she was pregnant or that she was going to get pregnant?
If the latter is true then leave her.
If the first is true, no one can really tell you what to do cause you know her better than any one who'll tell you anything does. I mean you know the kind of person she is and if she's honest and trustworthy and your sure SHE LOVES YOU then it's cool.
I am a little worried though about how you can break up with someone you were planning on having a baby with. Deciding to have a child with someone is not a minor thing and I would think the two people would love each other dearly but then to break up......
2007-03-07 11:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Natasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice of you, but it's unfair. You're only 18. The choice to have a baby was hers and, while it's great that you aren't leaving her because of it, but don't feel obliged. She isn't your responsibility and neither is her baby.
A red flag that should go up that she isn't very responsible is the fact that she decided to have a baby with someone, anyone, and then decided to leave just a few weeks later. You may be wasting your time. It seems like this girl makes her decisions in the heat of the moment.
2007-03-07 12:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a noble person. But....you are setting yourself up for problems after problems by being too willing. She is going to have to deal with the baby's daddy , it's not a matter of choice it's a must and she has no choice. If she wants to have the baby..fine..It is a choice that she is making...not you...she is not doing this for "you". You are in no way responsible for the well being of the child(remember that) emotionally...or financially. IF you are too willing and she knows that...I fear that she will DEMAND certain things from you and if you refuse. Don't set yourself up for a problem that you are not ready to handle. Be supportive that is all you can and should do.
2007-03-07 11:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
♥♥♥i think ur girlfriend has totally lost her cookies. y would u want 2 b with someone that wants 2 go out and have a baby that isnt even urs? thats messed up is so many ways. i understand that the baby is already here and theres not much u can do but 2 stick around and help take care of the baby. i think ur a good person but i think ur WAY 2 young 2 b puttin up with this crap from her. she wanted the baby but she shouldnt b disrespectin u.
2007-03-07 11:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you're still very young to be taking that kind of responsibility. i mean, do you see a future with her and her baby? do you want to spend the rest of your life with her? if not then don't even waste your time. i mean taking care of a baby is a lot of work and it will just bring stress to your relationship, plus it's not even your baby. do you really want to waste your time babysitting and acting like a father to the baby when your not even it's father. plus you'll hate yourself for wasting all that time if it didn't work out between you two.
2007-03-07 11:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're to young to be putting up with this sh*t. Babysit whenever she wants to go out? Dude, you're in for some major drama if you stay in this relationship. I'm guessing you haven't been together long. But this is ridiculous, get out. Find someone who you can have sex with, and isn't pregnant. And won't possibly be using you for a babysitter, or to pay her bills anytime soon.
2007-03-07 11:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really sweet and nice. Nit a lot of people would do that. I think you made the right choice. If you love her than you should be with her and except her under any circumstances.
2007-03-07 11:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are a few holes in your plan. if you're away working, how are you gonna babysit? and if she leaves somewhere, how are you gonna know if your gf and her ex aren't just screwing behind your back? she could be playing you big time. will she even tell you who the father is? if she doesn't, be watchful
2007-03-07 12:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think you're both too young to be parents. Just take it a step at a time.
2007-03-07 11:30:00 · answer #10 · answered by clayp72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋