and she said its none of my business. I told her if she's not happy than get a divorce but she's insists she's staying for my brothers and I. I know the right thing to do would be to tell my dad but he would be devestated. I have cut all contact with her and she has done the same even though we're living in the same house. II have 2 brothers which only 1 (the youngest @ 17) seems to care. I feel like the other has blocked it out of his mind. My mom keeps insisting its her business and for me to stay out but i think as long as i'm her daughter and she is still married to my dad than its my business!!!
2007-03-07 11:22:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her it is ridiculous for her to stay in the marriage for the boys if the youngest is already 17 but she is right, it's her business. Your dad has to know, but if you get involved you might be labeled as the trouble maker. LEt your dad take care of it himself. it's his problem.
2007-03-07 11:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by Cat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As painful as this is for you, it is between your mother and father...I am still (legally) married to my husband and we are living in the same house, but my kids are 6 and 2...I want nothing more than to get a divorce and move out but I am staying for my kids...in your case, you say your father has no idea she is cheating on him? Obvisouly there has to be some type of tension or fighting between them, the marriage doesn't sound good. Both me and my husband see other people even though we are still married...it's been a year now...I don't date seriously until I get a divorce but I do have fun (as your mom is now it seems)...I am very sorry you are going through this :( Does your mom work? I know I am staying around because it is very expensive and we both can't afford to live separately now...Since you said you cut all contact with her than you have nothing to lose by telling your father...even though it is true you might not like his reaction to you so please just be careful...you really should stay out of this (atleast now)...I will add more later
2007-03-07 11:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by poker_fan_in_nyc 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't your business. Your dad probably knows all about it and is quite happy not having it pushed in his face. You will gain nothing whatever by getting involved.
Your parents have been together for longer than you have been alive, they know things about their relationship that you will never know. They will handle it one way or another without your help.
Getting involved will probably cost you the breakup of the entire family and nobody will thank you for causing that.
2007-03-07 11:32:48 · answer #3 · answered by jinoturistica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
put yourself in her shoes. you may all live together but you don't know how they really are behind closed doors. Just keep quiet about this for now. It will all come out in the open later. She will tell him when she's ready. It may seem like the right thing to do but it really is her buisness. Just pray that everything works out.
2007-03-07 11:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the youngest of the 3 of you is 17 what is the point of staying together for the kids, especially if you all know your mom cheats?
2007-03-07 11:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your dad is doing the same thing.....it usually works that way.
they will end up divorced eventually.
then some couples do their own thing which ya know is not so cool or right.
Guess you just need to be happy and wish the both of them happiness, they will soon catch each other cheating,
2007-03-07 11:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when your dad finds out someday he is going to feel doubly hurt that you all knew and no-one told him, i know i would feel that way- it sounds like the poor guy is a stranger in his own home, such a lack of repect on your mothers part. When you are alone with him, tell him you are burdened with a big secret and you can't handle it any longer, have him ask you what it is.
2007-03-07 11:49:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
really, it's not. it's between them. the only thing you can do is either leave it alone or tell him. personally i would tell him because i was cheated on and no one told me because they were afraid of hurting me but in the end it hurt me more. tell your mom that it's too much for you to bear her cross, it's not your responsibility. either she tells or you do. it's possible he might forgive her. but she should never use you kids as an excuse to hide her infedelity. that's immature and irresponsible. she's an adult.
2007-03-07 11:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should stay out of it. And move out if you disapprove so vehemently. Your parents intimate relationship is none of your business. Don't humiliated your dad by telling him about this.
2007-03-07 11:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are in a tough situation, my advice would say nothing to your Father, he probably already knows. Just keep the secret and pretend you know nothing.
2007-03-07 11:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋