I really dont know how to cope please help me?

Question

when my girlfriend was 14 she was raped. She didnt tell anyone at the time and she knew where he lived afterwards but she was abroad and now she cant or wont do anything and it's killing me that anyone could hurt her like that and whenever I look at her or anyone mentions sex i just think about it and i get so upset and I cant talk to her because i close up. Shes now 15 and im 14 and im too young to cope with this properly i want to die and i know thats selfish but i cant deal with this I need help

Answer 1

Talk to your parents about it.

Answer 2

Are you sure she was raped?---that was just a yr ago she was 14. She can still press charges if it really happened.
You should not get upset about this cause it is in her past and does not reflect your love for her or her love for you.
Make sure she didnt make the whole thing up just to play on your
sympathy.
Most rapes these days are reported immediately when it happens.
U should not let this overpower you so much that the devil wants you to die. Get for real and dont let this neg. charge get all your powers. Cheer up and be happy and make her happy.

Answer 3

She needs counseling this is serious and it can destroy her life if she learns how to deal with it right now she may have a chance at some what a normal life. I was in my thirties when I dealt with it and it was the hardest thing that I have ever done in my life. I was a mother and married and divorced twice and going on my third. This was not normal and I knew it wasn't normal. I had to go to anger management because of the rages that came from it and I think in all it took two years for me to come to terms and learn how to deal with it and not let ruin anymore of my life. This is a horrible thing for her to deal with and to deal with alone without no help is not healthy for no one. Her mental balance is off and she has a lot of healing to go through, you can be there for her but she needs someone who specializes in this field, not your everyday therapist, one that knows what can happen to her if she doesn't go through this and can alert her parents of the dangers if not dealt with. She can not get over this and who ever says she can is wrong she has to learn how to live with this and then she can go from there and maybe resolve any other problems that have come from this. Good Luck and God Bless You All.

Answer 4

that's a lot for someone twice your age to deal with. it appears as though you're having more difficulty dealing with it than she is though. if you can't talk to her though she may not be the one for you at this time; sounds as though it's hard enough just being friends with her than it is being in a relationship with her. you need to figure out exactly why you're taking this so personally and what that is doing to the relationship. there's a lot more that's going on that you're letting on; why would you want to be in the relationship if this is what it has turned into, and why is it causing you to be depressed the way that it is?

Answer 5

1. are you sure she is telling the truth.
2. get over it. there is nothing you can do.
3. she may be just telling you that to about the pressure of sex because both of you are way to young anyway.

Answer 6

"you want to die" wow im speechless. just dont bring up sex or anything and dont end up killing yourself over this because your only 14......

Answer 7

U SHOULD TELL A GROWN UP.. SHE MIGHT BE MAD AT FRI ST BUT SHE SHOULDN'T WANT THAT TO HAPPENED TO OTHER GIRLS... THAT MIGHT BE YOUNGER THAN 14.. ITS UP TO YOU... BUT THAT NEXT PERSON RAPED COULD BE YOUR SISTER, COUSIN, NIECE, MOM, OR IF Y'ALL NEVER TELL IT MIGHT Y'ALL DAUGHTER IN THE FUTURE.. GOD BLESS U AND YOUR GIRLFRIEND, BE STRONG TOGETHER.....