Can you help me, all christions?

Question

I'm really hurt ,I got upset that my boyfriend said , god d** it, and I told him nicely not to say that around me, he said , I only been going to church only once in two weeks , and he said he was a cathlic, , then he laughed and he said he wasnt.But I dont want to break up with him, but I worry everyday about him going to hell, he has a opened mind about it, how can I show him, it's true, I really care about him , I've been praying for him , day and night.I want to marry him someday , can you please help.

And please dont be rude.

I pray all the time for him at church.

Answer 1

First, I'll let you know that I'll be praying for you.

If you really want wisdom on this, I would recommend getting an easy translation of the bible, the easiest is "The Message". It can also be found on Biblegateway.com and remember, the bible is all about relationships.

Start with 1st corintians charpter 7, it's on marrage, but it also focuses on relationships.

The bible basically says, it's OK that you are dating ( engaged or married to) an unbeliever, and hopefully your faith will overcome. If he in intolerent of your religion however, you should really look at the foundations of the relationship. You will realise in life, and by reading the bible, that men want respect and women want love. However, if you love him, that's not as important as respecting him. On the other hand, if he is not showing acts of love towards you (regardless of wheather he respects you or not and whether you love him or not), then he is not the one for you.

Again, biblically, for the relationship to work, he must show you love, though his actions.

Also, you being upset with him, will cause him to be hurt, which you don't want. A man draws his well being from his strength. You being upset at him is an attact at his strength. The emotion that he feels is likely simular to being cheated on! His reaction to your beliefs may be a reflection of that emotion.

As for the swearing, tell him that you forgive him. That is the Christian thing to do. Don't worry about mortal sin, all sin is forgivable, and in this case, I believe it would only be blasphamy if he had used the Hebrew name for God (which you probubly know but I will not even mention because of it's holyness).

Anyway, Good luck getting advise, keep up the praying, and if you need additional advise, leave me a note.

Thanks,

Answer 2

I may be wrong but I suspect you're rather young. Might I suggest you realize you have many years ahead of you and nothing needs to be done this very second. Continue to pray but understand that prayer is not a tool to force people to be what you want them to be. Talk this over with your pastor's wife or a youth leader in your church. They may be able to help you unravel your feelings from the situation so you can have some peace.

Answer 3

Well, it sounds as if your religion is really important to you. And it also sounds as if it may not be so important to him.

So I think that perhaps talking to him about this is more likely to help than praying right now. Explain how you feel because if you're planning on marrying you need to make sure that you have enough in common don't you?

Remember. Prayer is fine, but sometimes God might just like you to do some stuff for yourself too.
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Answer 4

By all means pray for him, he doesn't really sound like a sincere Catholic. But maybe you're not the one who reaps with him, maybe you're only the sower. Your answer for that will only come from God. I would suggest that you seriously ask yourself why you would want to marry this person (as they are today), how would you be building the kingdom of God by raising a family with this individual? How is he going to be concerned with your holiness and dignity as a daughter of the Father? Best wishes.

Answer 5

You have to decide what level of spirituality that you want from a boyfriend. Its really up to you and you can't expect to change people especially in the realm of faith. You can't make him have the same faith and/or spirituality that you have. You just have to decide whether or not you want to be with someone just like you or someone who might have different religious beliefs as you, but respects yours for what they are. It sounds like you want him to be at the same spiritual level as you and it also sounds like he isn't there. You should definately continue to pray and ask God to please guide you towards what the right decision is for you and be willing to accept the answer. Honestly, you sound kind of young and I don't think you should be too worried about marriage right now, it sounds as if you need to find out more about who you are and what you want out of live. Best of luck!

Answer 6

All you can do is pray for anyone, it takes the Holy Spirit to change a heart. If you take your faith seriously and to him it is a joke, do you think you would be happy with this person for life? You sound young, give yourself time to make a big decision like marriage. Christians should not be unequally yoked to an unbeliever, it is better for you.

Answer 7

If you are sincere in your own faith, I advise you get counsel from someone you know whose spiritual maturity you can trust. I don't think this venue affords enough context to give you the answer which is in your best interest and that of your boyfriend's. You are too apt to listen to the answer that suits you best. Let me just say that strong feelings cloud good judgment, and a little pain now may save you years of continuous pain later.

Answer 8

If a person doesn't believe in God they aren't convicted over using His name in vain so I suspect he'll continue to do this not to upset you but because it's just a part of his life.

He lied to you about being Catholic and you want to marry him someday? Not a great relationship starter in my eyes.

As for showing him Christianity is true, live your faith, don't tell it.

Answer 9

He says he's a catholic but a good cathlolic wouldn't say that. So I don't think your falling in love with HIM I think your falling in love with your boyfriend; your falling in love with who he SHOULD/ COULD be. AND he's lied to you. You desereve better. Maybe some day he'll change but intill than, he's not ready for commitment. So even though your love him he doesn't love you. I'll make sure to pray for U! sorry (about your soon to be EX)

Answer 10

will pray for him , just pray for him some more chica. You want to marry a guy that is saved & likes going to church . I had to DRAG my husband to church for years ... it wasnt fun . Dont you think God might have a bettter partner out there for you then the one your dating? just wanted to share that thought for you .