I am so nervous about somebody other than family lookoing after her! You hear so many horror stories of molestation, abuse, ect....I can't take it!!! I just feel like I'm sending her into the lion's den so to speak. HELP!!!!
2007-03-07 11:05:01 · 22 answers · asked by Carmen V 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You can teach her how to protect herself, such as prevent being alone with stranger. She should be very safe in the pre-school, it's definitely not a lion's den. In fact, a playground at your estate without any adult around is more dangerous. Just ensure there are adult to send and pick her up after the lesson if you are really worry. Over protection is no good for children either.
2007-03-07 12:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are comfortable with the school you are sending her to. That's important. And remember, when dealing with pre-schools there are going to be some things you don't like. There's no way to be 100% happy. Just make sure that you've checked the place out. When you go there look at the other children. Do they look happy? Also, when you first bring her there, if she has a hard time letting you leave and cries a lot, don't judge the pre-school on that. Judge it by how she is when you pick her up. If she's happy and playing then you found the right place. It's scary for every parent the first time their child goes to pre-school but it's a very enriching experience for them.
2007-03-07 19:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by dil7827 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your daughter will pick up on your fear, so make sure to hide it around her. Chances are, if you're this worried about it, you did your research on schools. Relax. Most schools don't have issues with molestation or abuse. It's the two schools a year nationwide that you hear about. Two out of how many thousands... I'd find some sort of class or group to attend while your daughter goes to school, if only for the first few weeks. That way you both are occupied and you're not constantly worrying. When your daughter starts to come home with art projects and is excited about going and not wanting you to pick her up then you'll have the opposite problem. Give it a couple of weeks and you'll be fine. Most moms do cry the first day or two that they drop their kids off. The first couple of weeks is an adjustment--mommy not knowing what to do with all her free time. You'll figure it out really fast. You might want to go meet the teachers ahead of time on your own without your daughter so that you can be reassured. Maybe get someone else to babysit your child for a couple of hours here and there while you run errands (grocery store, bank, dry cleaner's, Target, etc.) so that you can get used to not having her around. You'll be fine and more importantly, so will she.
2007-03-07 19:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
While your fears are not unfounded, they are rare. I am sure she will have as good of a time as my daughter did when she started 2 year preschool last year! To ease your fears: 1) Get references from other parents 2) Make sure there are atleast 2 teachers in the room at the same time 3) Make sure references and criminal background checks are run on all employees (not just teachers!) 4) VOLUNTEER AT SCHOOL - you will have a reason to be there and you will get to know the teachers 5)Talk to your child about "bad touches". 6) Watch your child's behavior....separation anxiety the first few weeks are normal. If it lasts longer than that or if she seems to continously be out of sorts when you pick her up then trust your instincts and get her out.
I am sure that once you both adjust, you will both have a great time!
2007-03-07 19:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ginger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is daunting.
My 2 year old has been in family daycare now for 6 months, and it was a little scary. I think your best bet is to really suss the place out and ask lots of questions! It may not be much consolation, but bad things like molestion do not happen regularly, i think most places are reliable, you cannot live your life in paranoia, ive been there and its not fair on you or your child. Ask the centre for references, or if you can sit in one day and watch their procedures, im sure they will understand your concern and be more than happy to oblige.
2007-03-07 19:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by han83b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay, just calm down. All children must go through this experience, and you're sending her to preschool for her own good. If it helps, make friends with some other parents who have enrolled their children in the same preschool and discuss your feelings with them. It'll be fine, and she'll learn the ways of the world. Don't worry, nothing's going to happen to her. It's pre-school, the place where the least bad things happen. She'll always be in a safe protected environment. Everything is going to be fine!!
2007-03-07 19:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be worried, she will have a blast. Make sure you do a couple of drop-ins to make yourself feel better. There is a big window into each room at my son's school, so I feel like this minimizes anything suspect going on. My son is just the opposite, he has never stayed with family longer than an hour. They won't do things my way, but daycare did.
2007-03-07 19:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you are coming from! My 18 month old just started going to daycare about a month ago and I was scared to death of leaving her. The first few days were tough for the both of us but she is slowly getting adjusted to being there. Go to the daycare talk to the teachers...see how they interact with the kids, how they treat them. I absolutly love my daughters teachers. When I drop her off I stand outside the room and with in a couple of minutes she isn't crying. She still cries off and on but not like she was when she first started. I have a friend whose girl is in my daughters class that reccomend the daycare. I am sure your child will do fine. Kids need interaction with other kids and its good for their social skills. Good luck!!
2007-03-07 21:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by mckt81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few suggestions:
1) Get to know the teacher and teachers aids.
2) Make a few unannounced visits to check up on your 2yr old.
3) Suggest a web cam for the classroom with password access so parents only can check in on their children while at work or home. (Keep in mind Parents may have to donate money or time to keep it going since a lot of schools have little money)
2007-03-07 19:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by ASDZA’NI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pre-school do u mean day care?
My son started day care when he was 18 months and today at 6 years old I have a very sensitive, loving, caring and other kids in his Sr. Kindergarden look up to him (mind you he's 6 months older than the others)
Just make sure u research out different one's ask questions don't be afraid to ask. You just might ask friends & family about their day care.
Good Luck
2007-03-07 19:11:14 · answer #10 · answered by α∂νєηтυяє ιѕ нєяє 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋