Should I deserve better?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6th months now and he can be immuture sometimes.
Also I am Methodist and he is (big time) Baptists
and well we don't see exactly eye to eye on certain stuff.
Another thing he doesn't spend much time with me and he doesn't seem to put much effort into the relationship.
But I do like him a whole lot and I do not know what to do!
My friends tell me I deserve better but I really just want some advice. I dont know

Answer 1

You have to decide on what makes you happy! The small problems may melt away after a time and you can always talk to work things out. Let him know how you are feeling and encourage him to talk to you too. If he makes you happy then don't give up, if he is not making you happy then try to talk with him and see if things get better... Decide whether you even feel like trying to make it work, if you don't than it probably isn't worth your time!

Answer 2

Everyone seems to come to the conclusion that they deserve better after a relationship begins to fall downwards. So that's not really the issue. The real problem is that he doesn't know what he's doing and how he's making you feel. TALK IT OUT. Tell him that he's not fullfilling the role as a boyfriend. Let him know that you're not satisfied with how much he cares. And the whole religion thing? Don't worry about it. Methodists and Baptists aren't all that different. They both believe in the same concept, so your churches may be different, but your religious lives can be in any way intertwined, as long as you don't object to his private beliefs. His immaturity will stop after a while. Guys don't grow up for a LONG time after girls do. It's the sort of thing you have to just deal with for a while. Good luck. And remember, don't give up on him. Or else you might just give up on the real thing.

Answer 3

Well all guys are immature of course. If he doesn't put effort into the relationship and doesn't spend much time with you then you don't know what he is doing with his time you and him aren't spending together. Your friends must love you enough to tell you that you deserve better because you do and you shouldn't have to date someone who doesn't care about you as much as he should. I know you said you like him a lot, but hunny you dont deserve crap like that. Most couples work the whole see eye to eye thing out. Talk to him about it and if he doesn't really care than tell him you need to take time apart and try to find someone who is better and more mature and caring for you. All I have to say is good luck:)

Answer 4

I do not think that "do I deserve better?" is really the right question here. He doesn't sound like such a bad guy, but maybe he just sees things differently. The thing you said that sticks out the most is that he does not spend much time with you. For some people they just need to be social, have time alone, or whatever... it has nothing to do with you. But, if that is not a match for you, and you are more "clingy, dependent and or smothering" then trouble may be brewing ahead. You need to find someone that is the same way if that's how you are.

Answer 5

All people deserve all things great. No couple will see eye to eye on every thing, but I believe that a relationship is all about compromise. My main concern, is that you feel as if he is not putting much effort into the relationship. Why be with someone if they are not taking the relationship serious? It's hard for one person to carry the relationship on their own, if he is not putting effort or compromising than, why stick around. It obvious you care about him, but many times we stick around and stay in relationship that we know are not good ones. You need to just talk to him about the way you feel.

Answer 6

Yes, you do deserve better. You said he doesn't put much effort in the relationship. You deserve someone that will. Since you say you like him alot, try talking to him and tell him how you feel. If he doesn't shape up then find someone more deserving. If your friends are telling you that you deserve better you should listen to them, they are just looking out for you. I been in the same situation where friends told me I deserved better than the guy I was dating and they were right. Not the greatest advice but hope it helps. Good luck.

Answer 7

Try telling him how you feel about things and see if you can try to hang out together more. And its fine that you dont see eye to eye on some things, relationships are all about compromise as long as you find some kind of common ground on things then you'll be fine. Just see how things go after you tell him how you feel, and if things are still going the same then i'd say break up with him.

Answer 8

Well the first thing you should do is sit him down, no tv or radio or any other distractions and tell him heart and soul what you're feeling. If he's a real man and loves you he'll listen to you and at least come to a compromise. If you tell him and things don't improve then I would move on. Remember, the right man for you will always consider your feelings. I hope everything works out well for you.

Answer 9

talk to him tell him that he acts a little immuture at times and that you realy like him but he needs to put some effort in the relationship just like you

Answer 10

If you can tolerate his immaturity, his views points, and like him for who he is, than you should remain in the relationship. Confront him about his effort in the relationship and pay no mind to your friends in this matter. Only you can decide if you deserve better.