ive been with my boyfriend for three months now, and i feel very secure and settled, im incredibly happy with him and our relationship and he makes me smile. however today he mentioned that i always relate issues to my previous ex... and i didnt even realise i did that!! now he thinks that i am still hung up over him.
i admit there will be feelings within me, but i dont think about him on a regular basis but i cant deny that ihavent thought much about him.
so what now? what does this all mean?
2007-03-07 10:53:48 · 9 answers · asked by soukmun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
who cares?....now theres a question!
2007-03-07 10:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This could mean that you are with this b/f on the rebound.
However, if you feel secure and settled with him, there is
no reason why you should not go on to be really happy
together.
You have to keep yourself in check though. Now you are aware
you should be able to do this.
You have to ask yourself do you want this boyfriend or live
with a memory? Do you see yourself getting back with him. If so
be honest and break your relationship now before you get more
involved with each other. Good Luck.
2007-03-07 11:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mention the ex. If you still hanker after the ex : perhaps you need a guy who combines the qualities of both. Or you just want what you can't have. Or if he was your first big relationship, then you're using him as a reference point.
All the same : Don't mention your EX- or it will spoil this relationship.
M : )
2007-03-07 11:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by mesmerized 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that can really turn a guy away this early in the relationship.
You don't realize that you do it, but maybe you can consiously(sp?) watch you what you bring up and or just not mention your ex at all. I had to ask my wife when we were dating because she kinda did the same thing. I mean i knew her heart was devoted to me and mine to hers, but I did NOT want to hear about ex's.
Hope all goes well.
Swanky
2007-03-07 11:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ether Fumes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
crikey, theres obviously an issue here for him to feel it so much to mention it.
just try really hard i guess not to talk about the ex at all. it could end even a good relationship..
2007-03-07 11:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by MICHY06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens to us all, perhaps you should just not worry to much and explain to your new fellow that it is not meant if you do slip up & relate to issues with the ex.
Now you are aware how your new bloke feels hopefully you will have something in the back of your mind telling you to think first
2007-03-07 13:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, its OK to relate to your past experiences so the same mistakes are not made again. Just tell him you don't want this relationship to end like it has before, and everyone will be just fine!
Good Luck Hun!
2007-03-07 11:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by Ang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
refer to them. clarify that you opt for to provide the relationship yet another try. the purely way that is going to artwork is that if you're both waiting to ignore previous transgressions and start up new from as we talk. If the different individual says no, you want to entice close that and bypass on.
2016-10-17 10:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to cut off from this guy or you wont be able to move on. x
2007-03-07 11:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by lovelylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋