Alright, so if you read my previous post then you know I am engadged. NOW WHAT?! Neither of us know the wedding lingo or how it all goes down. (minus the walking down the aisle part) thats all I know! I know there should be an engadgment party, but then what? Who pays for what? Is there someone or maybe a site who can explpain it all in DETAIL??? When do you go on a honeymoon and where do you go? How long? I hate planes and want to stay in the US. Plus we both work...help?
2007-03-07 10:51:22 · 7 answers · asked by monkeysgirl04 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Im in Cali (Vacaville)
2007-03-07 11:20:09 · update #1
hello! first of all congrats on your engagement! i am engaged too and am about where you are at, but luckly i have a little help as two of my brothers are engaged and planning weddings as well. first of all. there is no real major HAS TO BE DONE THIS WAY OR YOU DIE traditions pertaining to weddings any more. you can basicly have it wherever you want if the site is available, you can have whoever pay for it, etc. a good site to go look things up on though is www.theknot.com they have all sorts of features, like a budget sheet, and even a cool feature that helps locate halls and caterers and people who do invites and all that in your area. also, pick up a few wedding magizines, ive gotten a lot of good ideas from those. i have also noticed that most wedding magizines come with a timeline of when you should try to have certain things done by just to make things easy as possible and so you arent scrambleing on the big day! i really hopes this helps you, i get to put everything i learned into practice this weekend, we are going to go start looking at halls and try to find a place to get a cake and invites...
2007-03-07 10:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get a copy of Bride's magazine they will tell you everything. There is not too much it is about what you want to do. You can go anywhere you want for a honeymoon and while usually people go right after the wedding we didn't go on ours for 2 weeks after. For the wedding generaly the bride and her family pay for the wedding and the reception. The groom and his family generally get the booze if you have it, the flowers and his tux and your ring. The bride should get a little gift for her bridesmaids. There is usually a fee for the church and the pastor but ask at the church about that. I am sure there are places on the web with this info but if you look over the bridal magazines there are about a dozen different ones so the info is out there. Congrats and good luck
2007-03-07 11:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It goes down the way you two want it to go down. Start figuring out simple things: Church or secular? Inside or outside? Fancy or simple? Large or small? What is your budget? Make a guest list - put everyone you would ever think of inviting on it, then start trimming it down. Who pays for what depends on you and your family. My husband and I paid for our wedding and everything else, but his parents gave us a generous monerary gift. If you think your families would be willing to contribute to the expenses - talk to them and get a feel of how much it might be. Start thinking of what kind of location do you want to be married at; a church, a resort, a beach, a national park, a friend's house? Are you going to have drinks? dinner? dancing? DJ? Once you have narrowed down your ideas a bit, start calling around. Chances are, the places you're gonna be calling have done weddings before, and can advise you on your specific situation. We live in CA, and at one point were looking at getting married on the Star of India (an old tall ship in San Diego). We went down there and met with their special events guy; he took us around and described in detail where everything would go, where the guests would sit, where the dancing could take place, where to put the food, the bar, the dj; he had it all figured out. (We ended up having an informal wedding - the wedding/reception on the ships would have cost us $10,000, and it just seemed insane to spend this much.)
Honeymoon - you can go anywhere you'd like, or not go anywhere at all. It's up to you! We went on a 10-day Caribbean cruise, and LOVED it. Highly recommended. There are cruises that leave from San Diego and San Francisco, they go to Alaska or Mexico; you don't have to fly. Your honeymoon can be a drive to Yosemite, or a leasurely week in Big Sur. There are plenty of places in CA to vacation at.
Just take it one bite at a time, don't get overwhealmed thinking of everything at once. Congratulations.
For some ideas, try www.theknot.com
2007-03-07 11:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to your local bookstore and find a wedding etiquette/planning book. It will help with all of the details. As far as the honeymoon goes, go where you want for as long as you want within your budget. It can be just a weekend get-a-way.
2007-03-07 10:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i just got engaged 2 months ago and i know how u feel but i kept searching on internet for sites that would help me and i held a wonderful engagement party and getting ready for the wedding party in summer.now what u have to do about who pays what ,i think u should discuss it with ur fiancee and dont let anyone interfere. now i want to help u by sending this site that helped me alot and i hope it would help u too.www.weddingchannel.com
2007-03-07 10:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what state/city are you in maybe i can help.
I'm in Michigan and i am a wedding coordinator
if you are not in my state i can send you some links to sites in your state that can help
http://www.theknot.com/
2007-03-07 11:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by Taiasha M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.topweddinglinks.com/etiquette.html
2007-03-07 10:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by patricia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋