Booty call mess up??Dont know what to do??

Question

Okay my bf cheated on me because i wanted to wait to have sex till we new each other better i only ever had sex with my ex. bf and was nervous about having sex with my new bf.I got really mad and out of spite had sex with my ex. bf who has a gf that i hate.Afterward i felt bad and my ex.bf and i decided to act like it never happened.Fastfoward to now 2 months later my period never came and i have a positive pregnancy test.I am only 19 and scared i thought you could not get pregnant the day after your period!Should i tell my ex.bf?On top of it my bf and i are still together?How to fix this?

I am terrified!i have no idea what to do?

Answer 1

How many mistakes can you make at one time? Sex with the ex # 1 unprotected sex with the ex # 2 cheated on a guy you obviously like # 3 cheated for a stupid reason # 4

Yes you should tell the ex and get it over with and also you will have to tell your current bf and your parents. Get ready for some bad vibes for a while but whats done is done you now need to start thinking about yourself and your pregnancy. Take care of yourself...

Answer 2

You don't sound ready to take care of the baby or your self at this point in your life, and neither does the ex-bf, who would be the father. Unless you can provide for the baby, and the baby can have a decent, loving, supportive, financially sufficient family, then do NOT bring him/her into this world!!!! The world is already quite full of "broken" families and unloved children.

If this is the case, then personally, I think it's OK to get an abortion. You will feel terrible. Others will make you feel terrible. But if you are seriously not ready to raise & be responsible for another human life, then do not so. If you cannot guarantee that, then do not bring him/her into this world. If you decide to get an abortion, do it RIGHT AWAY.

At the very least, you will be more careful & responsible next time. Don't blame your self too much for making a mistake - just try to make sure that it doesn't happen again in the future. Remember to share with others what you learn from this experience.

The best of luck with whatever you decide to do!

Answer 3

Wow, what a mess. First of all, I know that you must feel scared and overwhelmed by this, just know that you aren't the first or the last person to make a big mistake. What matters now is what you do about it from this point on.

Okay ...

If the only guy you've had sex with in the past three months was your ex, it's his. I would tell him. Try to remain calm and see what he wants you to do. Just feel him out. If he wants you to have an abortion, don't freak out - you don't have to do it. Just listen. Then, make your own decision. Oh, and don't threaten his relationship with his new girlfriend. You don't want to go there.

If you have had sex with your new boyfriend, it could be either guy's baby (since stress can cause you to miss your period and then you could have become pregnant by your new boyfriend). I wouldn't tell your ex at this point. If you want to stay with your new boyfriend (although I wouldn't recommend it ... sorry, hon), I would tell him you're pregnant and that you had a stupid one nightstand with another guy because you felt hurt that he would toss you aside like that. Don't go into details of that night and try not to lay blame, it'll only make things worse. Then tell your new boyfriend you're pregnant. If you don't want to stay with your new boyfriend, I wouldn't tell either guy, just simply rely on the support of your friends and family to get through the pregnancy.

At this point, you do have several options. You could have an abortion. I wouldn't recommend it, but it is your choice. You could have the baby and give it up for adoption. This is a great option, and I would sincerely consider it. You could keep the baby. This is a very difficult decision to make as a nineteen year old girl who will probably be a single mom for at least a portion of the child's life. Without a college education, it's extremely difficult to support a baby out of a single paycheck. Maybe you could live with your parents?

If you choose to keep the baby, and you don't know for certain who the father is, you can have a paternity test done after the child is born. You could then pursue child support.

Whatever choice you make, please realise that you only have one first pregnancy, and you will never forget it, regardless of what you choose to do about it. Try and enjoy the new life growing inside of you, and keep its best interests at heart. That's my personal advice.

Good luck, hon. And, please, don't make the same mistakes. In the future, use birth control pills, don't sleep with someone you're not involved with, don't use revenge sex, and find a boyfriend who respects and cares enough to wait until you are ready for sex. Only a jerk would sleep with someone else because you need time to feel comfortable having sex with him.

Answer 4

This is what happens when you play with fire, you do get burned. I am not here to judge you but to shine some light on the situation. You can get pregnant after you period. Those day are some of the fertile days. You owe it to him to tell him. It is his and the both of you need to come to a decision. Just to let you in on a little secret, a very close friend of mine had an abortion and she told me that she would not wish that on her worse enemy. So its time to grow up and think as adults do. Think about it everytime you have sex because you never know, the person you sleep with could be the father of a child you might create.

Answer 5

Are you sexually active with your new boyfriend? If you are, how soon did you have sex with him after your ex boyfriend? If you're sure that your ex is the father of the child, and you do decide to go through with the pregnancy, it is extrememly important that you tell your ex that he fathered the child. As far as your current bf is concerned, you will have to tell him the truth.

As far a pregnancy goes, although it's difficult to get pregnant right after your period, it's not impossible. You should also use some sort of protection (sorry for preaching), regarless of the %'s.

Answer 6

Well, you are really in a bind now, because you are pregnant. The question is though, did you wind up having sex with your boyfriend after you had sex with the ex? Because then you have a question of paternity. I dont know what you are planning to do, if you are keeping the baby or termination or what, but either way, I think you need to tell your boyfriend. If you dont you will wind up on the Maury Povich show. I am not trying to joke here, you have a life inside you now and you have to do the right thing here no matter who it hurts. You have to think of yourself and your child now. I think you need to first tell the ex, then tell your boyfriend. If I am correct you think he is the father, so go to him first.

Answer 7

Good evening,

I'm terrified for you. It all matters on what you intend to do. If you are keeping the baby, I would definately tell the exbf and the new bf. Keep in mind that the new bf will probably soon too be an ex after this news. If you are close to your parents, I would tell them next.
They will all know soon when you begin to show signs. It would be better to hear it from you. -This is just an opinion-

Answer 8

How dumb is this question???

News flash.... you can get pregnant AT ANY TIME!!!

You have to tell everyone involved because you are now a mother with a baby growing inside you.

You have made the decision to sleep with your Ex-boyfriend. He is now your baby's father.

Your responsibility should be now taking care of your child.

You won't have time for relationships for a very long time.


Just get it over with so you can concentrate on loving your baby through the rest of the pregnancy and your life.


Good luck, mommy.



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Answer 9

I really don't think there is anything to fix. You have to be honest and tell your boyfriend now that you are pregant with your ex boyfriends child, and you should tell the EX that your pregnant with his kid, and there is possible chance your Now bf is gonna dump you and your X is gonna tell you well it ain't mine, because you both decided to act like nothing happen between the both of you, and it is also 2months after you and him had sex

Answer 10

Eventually, the best thing for you to do is to come clean with those involved -- lies about things like these will inevitably come back to haunt you if you just try to ignore them or hope they'll go away.

For now, though, you need to calm down and think, which won't be easy, so you can make decisions that are appropriate for you. Best thing to do is to get advice from a dependable source -- if there's a family member you can turn to, consider that. If not, consider counseling through church or community groups. Try internet searches, the yellow pages, and friends for leads to possible counseling in your area.

And take a step back, if you can, and try to relax -- millions of girls have gone through situations like you're going through now, and most of them have survived. Most important thing is that you learn from it, ya know?

Good luck.