should i lower my standards on the type of guys i like because im having a hard time meeting a good guy. i mean i meet people everyday but after talking to them and finding out they have a kids, or not a good enough job, or they may say something stupid i end whatever could have been. i know what i want and i expect nothing less. i have alot to offer. no kids own my home, college grad,pretty, fit, funny im a great catch but i cant meet the right people. any advice for me?
2007-03-07 10:42:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ITS OK......lots of people go through it, but your doing a good job.....sometime if you marries or be a guy's girl friend and he was the rong person. you might end up getting hert, so its really good to pick the MR. RIGHT.........i believe that god has provided the right person for all of us....just don't give up.
2007-03-07 11:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by miss kiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not you're a "great catch" is for your future partner to decide and you're right about your standards needing to be lowered. When you assert that you know what you want and you expect nothing less you're making yourself look extremely conceited, which doesn't help your chances of finding a man. Willingness to compromise is a very important part of any long-term relationship, especially that with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-03-07 18:57:19 · answer #2 · answered by D.L. Miller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being picky. You may spend a lifetime looking for that person that doesn't say or do something to turn you off. These things happen and you need to overlook them. (Choose your battles) those that are important to you and let everything else go. Otherwise you may be relationshipless for a long time. There is great diversity in the world, including relationships. It shouldn' t matter who makes more money or who graduated college... What matters is you are able to get along with one another and have fun together.
2007-03-07 18:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by tflight 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well the thing is, you have to be patient. Also you need to look at the things that you expect and makes sure they are reasonable things. Like for instance I decided I only liked artist types who didn't like sports and were all sensitive and stuff. Butt then I got talked into seeing a guy who was the exact opposite of that and found the sweetest most caring person on this earth. Also don't try to hold them to a standard that you wouldn't hold yourself too either. Like I bet there are times when you havent' always said the smartest things either.
2007-03-07 18:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by zyllee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because like most woman you're not truly interested in a "nice guy." You'll date jerk after jerk and question "why oh why." A nice guy will try talking to you and you'll cut him down, you'll say things like "he's nice, but, not my type." Then you'll go to the lounge lizard every time. Perhaps you think the nice guy is "too nerdy" or not "masculine enough." I once asked a girl out and her response was "I don't date blond haired guys." Then she went out with a player and wondered why he dumped her after he got into her panties. It disgusts me. You don't want a well educated, well mannered man, you want some muscle building air head who will treat you like crap. I treat woman with respect and admiration, yet, no girlfriend. I have degrees in electrical, mechanical, and computer engineering. I make a nice salary, yet, no girlfriend. Why? because I treat women with respect and that's not what they want. Guess I'll never have a decent girlfriend, because women don't really want a "nice guy."
2007-03-07 18:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by cireengineering 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends where you are looking, if you are at bars waiting to be given a pick up line, you are only going to get the self centered jerk guys. Do something different, try a class or something and maybe approach some guys, guys can be shy too you know, you might have to approach some yourself as well.
2007-03-07 18:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by mblastguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be a little too judgemental. First you can't discriminate against someone because they have children. Not putting you down but who told you, you were a catch. You have to be open. You may have already passed him by, but because he works at Speedway you have overlooked him. I say you need to have your standards but also keep your mind and spirit open. Sometimes what we think we WANT is not always what we NEED.
2007-03-07 18:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by nobodybetta_99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your expectations might be a little too lofty. Good guys are found everywhere. Judge them more on their character instead of their positions and you may have better luck finding a suitable mate.
2007-03-08 05:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're best bet is hanging out in the places you enjoy. If you happen to meet someone they would share an interest with you, and it would be easier to talk cause you'll have something in common.
2007-03-07 18:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by arsehole_adam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never lower your expectations in order to find a man. Why do you need to find a man for anyway? Enjoy life. Date! And when you aren't even searching the perfect man will come.
2007-03-07 18:46:18 · answer #10 · answered by Leila 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋