My girlfriend had a crush on another guy and today she found out he had a girlfriend. Shes been crying for a while now because she doesent know what to do. What do i do?
2007-03-07 10:39:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im not gonna break up with her, thats not an option.
2007-03-07 10:43:29 · update #1
This whole thing just isn't right man...why is breaking up with her not an option? If she has a crush on this guy to the point of tears now, how does this make you feel?
Tell her how this makes you feel (and it should bother you!).
I guess for one thing it shows honesty (assuming she told you about the crush)...but I dunno man. I'd say take a breather from your relationship atleast (a break or whatever), and figure yourself out (while she hopefully does the same). Figure out who you are on your own, go back to hanging with friends, whatever you did before you were with her...find ways to love yourself. Hopefully in all this time, she will figure herself out too, and finally appreciate what she has with you...if she doesn't by the time you try to get back together, just end it. For your own good and hers.
Or you could just tell her right now to decide if she cares for you at all to get over this guy...or you could end it just right now...but those options are a bit rougher I bet, and harder to do I'm sure....
Hope this helps...
best wishes
2007-03-07 10:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by live4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not about you. Its about him, and her....she still has feelings for him otherwise she could give a hoot if he has another girlfriend, unless she was using you to make him jealous and it backfired. Listen, stay the good hearted friend you are...provide her support and a shoulder to cry on, but do not smother her with your kindness as her eyes are still set on the other guy. If it was me I would not be able to stand it knowing the one I love is crying over another person, but you must be a better person than I am.
Give her space, love, advise...whatever she wants but do not come close uninvited...be careful....
2007-03-15 13:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her to pick, if not leave her, she is your girlfriend but like another guy. that is unfair to you and her. there may be a woman out there that has a crush on you and wants you and youre wasting your time with a girl that wants someone else. youre a crazy individual for allowing such a thing. you said breaking up aint an option, leave her *** and see if it is you she wants, then you will know if youre wasting your time.
2007-03-15 14:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by soto_a81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And I thought I had relationship issue's. Dude your women had it bad enough for another guy that she's crying over it. Even if I was single and found out my crush was involved already i Wouldn't cry. Stop treating your self like shyte for her benefit she doesn't deserve it.
2007-03-15 12:37:01 · answer #4 · answered by tarakootenay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is that emotional about another guy, there must be somethings going on you don't know about. Like maybe he used her the way she is using you? Your best bet for YOUR emotional/mental stability is getting out of a romantic relationship with this very immature girl.
2007-03-15 13:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by head_kase13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if there is anything you can do. If I were you, I'd hope for better treatment from a girlfriend, though, than to be the shoulder she cries on over another guy!
2007-03-15 12:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you seriously do not want to let her go...that's fine. That's between you and her. She must have feelings for you if she is with you, i assume. I sorta have been in this siuation, but not completly. She'll get over that guy...it just takes time. Just try to take her out, watch a movie, go with a group of friends somewhere...just get her mind off of him. If you really like her, then you have to do something. She will get over this tho. Hope I helped! gl! =)
2007-03-07 18:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by NoDoubt21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are mixed up in your emotions. the saying is lovers come and go but Friends are forever. put your head in the right place, and think about you future. this is a big world with a lot of people in it . find some one who thinks of you more then a Friend, and not a bouncing board, for you are the only one who gets hurt. be smart and put your priority's together.
2007-03-15 18:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by walt s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it but, if she is crying for another man then she is not really your girlfriend. If the other guy ever wants her back, you will be toast!
2007-03-15 12:52:09 · answer #9 · answered by cheri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um. She obviously doesn't want you!? I mean, I know what she feels like. You might have to let her go. She likes the other guy. It happens. Life moves on. And you will too. I have been going through somewhat of a similar situation.
2007-03-07 18:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by The Random Blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋