Okay so there was this one girl at my school who really liked me and she told me that she liked me so I told her I didn't feel like that about her and that we should only be friends but she didn't understand that her friends and her kept on bothering me and I had been trying to be nice and cool about it because I know it sucks to get rejected by someone you like but recently they started like stalking me they would follow me and my friends where ever we went and they talked some really weird stuff about me so today I sent her an e-mail that said that I really wasn't interested in her and that she should understand that sometimes people you like might not like you back and so right now she read my message and she got all upset and I think she might have even been crying (not sure) and she said I was a jerk and all this other stuff I don't really care what she calls me but I'm wondering did I do the right thing or was I a bit harsh
Thanks!!!!
2007-03-07 10:37:49 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like it's her problem. Too bad.
2007-03-07 10:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by Clueless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't do anything wrong at all. It could of been a lot worse actually. You told her off the bat you were not interested in her that way but wanted to be FRIENDS!! If he read between the lines she could of just accepted that. But obviously was blind. So you emailed her which was right and told her the same thing one again.... If shes that upset honestly she just ruined any chances now...(if there were any) don't worry about it. She seems stalkerish any way... hopefully now she'll just leave you alone.
good luck
2007-03-15 08:44:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes harsh works sometimes it doesnt. the emotional energy she felt from your honest rejection will come in tears and some exclamations from the pain. better she get that out instead of hold it in...which is more harmful in the long run.
I love a guy who wont say anything to me in return...it makes me ill...i'd rather he be 'a bit harsh' than lead me on. you were right for what you said...she can move on and realize you slammed the door instead of leaving a 'friendship' crack...that you didnt really mean. peace
2007-03-07 18:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. You did the right thing. If this girl liked you...for real she would not put you through this. She just did not liked being told that you are not attracted to her...that is all.
You did the right thing, now back away and let her have her fit...let her be, let say whatever she wants...just like you see it others also do.... Keep her off your personal property...home, car...etc...she might do something crazy...out of self petty...
2007-03-15 13:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you're very sweet for handling that sistuation the way you did, rejection does suck, big time. you did the right thing, you probably did hurt her feelings, but you would of ended up hurting them someday in the future if you got a girlfriend or something, she will get over it and move on, don't worry, you did the best thing you could do, and for that you have my respect
2007-03-07 18:43:15 · answer #5 · answered by Leslie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was better you told her you didnt like at all, then lead her on and have her more pissed off in the long run. If her and her friends keep stalking you, you should definately tell some one about this.
2007-03-07 18:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by asimpledork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you did the right thing- itsounds likeyou tried to put it as gently as possible, there isn't a whole lot you can do at this point except hope she doesn't stalk you.
2007-03-07 18:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did absolutely well. I must congratulate you for handling yourself in a matured way, Relationships are not built on sympathy and pity but on a more solid plank - love.
2007-03-15 18:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by The Razor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that was a good thing to do because once someone get to the stage off stalking u, u should just tell them to back off! ^-^
2007-03-07 18:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude if this girl is soo in to you and she won't take a hint break her freaking heart dude your a guy and your supposed to be hash trust me it always works!!!!!Unless you're a girl then it can become quite a problem
2007-03-07 18:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by Mac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your made for eachother. in five years she'll be beautiful and you'll wat to go out with her and she'll say no. just kidding.
seriously, i know how that feels. this guy last year wouldn't stop asking me out even though i told him no and he was stalking me and freaking me out. and i made this dude thats my friend make him leave me alone. now its a year later, we don't have any classes together and he STILL stares at me. all well. she'll just have to get over it. you didn't do anything wrong, so you don't have to feel bad.
~Traci
2007-03-07 18:46:42 · answer #11 · answered by Silent Rumours 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋