is sex all he wants!!!!!!!!!?

Question

my boyfriend and i am only 14 years old and we have been together for only 2 days! but he has liked me for 3 months and now he finally has me. but things are getting really different. this is the first time iv been in an situation like this so im confussed. my boyfriend kissed me the day after we hooked up and today he asked me if i wanted to tongue kiss him tommarow and that he does. it will only be 3 days since we have been together. not only that he asked me if he could smack my a**!!! now i dont know how to replie to him i do want to tongue him and i really dont care if he smacks my a** but he could get in trouble for that and then get suspended! so what do i do? what do i say? how do i say it? im soooooo confussed. what do u think does he like me or is he just in it for sex?

Answer 1

You're going waaay too fast at your age and are in danger of going too far. Slow down and tell him no, but say you do like him. If he pushes too hard for more, just dump him before you get hurt.

Answer 2

This is a guy who wants only one thing- sex. Chances are, he's more than willing to pull a stunt like this with other women out there, and he's willing to risk getting in trouble to get it. That's yet another reason you wouldn't want to associate with him. If he gets into trouble for his stunts, then the woman he's with(in this case, you)may suffer the consequences too. Not to mention the fact that your reputation could be sullied for a long time, and ruined reputations can take a long time to repair if at all. Don't even think of tongue-kissing him or letting him spank you as it will lead him to believe he can get away with it. Tell him you are not in it for sex, and tell him exactly what I just told you here. If he doesn't stop his garbage, go to the principal. It's not worth the risks.

Answer 3

First of all, you are only 14. More than likely, yes, he does want physical things from you. Boys your age are never as mature as you think they are so it is best to keep it as PG as possible until you trust him and feel comfortable.

Also, it never hurts to ask. Have a talk about intentions and make sure that they are pure before getting romantic. But please remember you have plenty of time before you start having a physical relationship. Just stay calm and decide if this is really what you want.

Remember, these young relationships never last more than a few weeks or months. It's like the training wheels to your real sex life you will have when you are MUCH older.

Answer 4

I think that it is important to remember that there is a time and a place for everything. I don 't really think that kissing is a bad thing, but believe me when I tell you that letting your boyfriend smack your butt and kiss you in front of other people will only make you look like a slut. If the guy truly cares about you he will not want you to look like a slut in front of anyone. If he can't back off of you in pubic then you may have to consider that he does only want you for your body. I also think that 3 days is a little soon to tell.

Answer 5

well, first off, you're too young for anything "sexual". that said, kissing, smacking, and groping are okay, if intimate. Remember, he's still in puberty, and probably can't control his hormones when he sees you. Yes, he may like you, yes, he probably wants your body, but if you really want him to smack you and you want to tongue-kiss him, you should. Just not in sight of school or adults. but the instant he hints at having sex (being naked together, that sort of thing), back off. Then he wants sex. otherwise, if you feel uncomfortable with him, leave him. You'll have a ton of boyfriends soon enough.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, at this age guys tend to be focused on that part of their body. Why because of the testosterone? Should you have sex with him? no. You have your life ahead of you. Believe me you do not want to be stuck with someone's baby or have someone's nasty STD. When you become older and you see what sex really intels then you can make the decision whether or not to particpate in it with a guy you love. Not some one you have only been with for 2-3 days.

Answer 7

all i can say is dump him. three days and he already wants to make out and stuff? thats weird. i can't say i've had experience in this area but i'm not a moron and if what he wants is sex, let him go. its ok if he smacks ur butt, and gives u a kiss, but sex is way to far, ESPECIALLY because u r only 14!! u aren't gonna stay a kid forever, so don't waste your time with him. he is just a h**ny guy who probably doesn't like you for you. i'm sorry to say that, but its the truth.

Answer 8

u shouldn't let him touch u that way ur only 14 n been w/ him for 2 days thats not a relationship u want to rush in...its possible he wants sex but tell him thats not how hes suppose to treat a gurl b/c he could get in a lot of trouble...if he really wants to have sex w/ u tell him u don't b/c sex is an emotional situation...nobody under 16-18 is emotional ready for sex....trust me if u end of havin sex w/ this guy ur just goin to go crzy...b/c once that door is oopen for him hes just gonna wanna do it w/ another gurl b/c i know b/c my brother did that at 13

Answer 9

Sex. Believe me. I'm only 16, but I know that he's in it for the sex and the glory. Wait until it's true. Wait until you are ready. Plus, a guy should never ask it in that way! That's rude and mean. And weird. So yes. He's in it for the sex. Most guys around our ages only want sex. Sorry. Just wait for a mature....or if you can't find that, try ALMOST mature. lol. Good luck!

Answer 10

Sounds like he likes you, but just wants to have some fun! If you really feel comfortable enough for him to do those things you listed, Then let him! but if you don't, tell him to stop. At 14, i don't think hes in it just for sex. You don't have to worry about that for another 2-3 years. Kind of sad these days, but what can you do? But to answer your question, tell him yes, but not around teachers.