Should I move on?
I met this guy once. And I fell in love with him. I knew he liked me. We just let it lie at that because he is 7 years older, but it was love. Well I had to move back to where I came from but it's only about 3 hours away. So...we talked until this girl that moved there about the time I moved away became his girlfriend. She's only a little bit older. Now they are engaged, and due to be married next year. I still love him and think about him constantly. What should I do. Tell him? Or not and let him be now in "love" with her?
2007-03-07 10:26:06 · 7 answers · asked by The Random Blonde 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be happy for the times that you had and the experience.
I met this girl years ago that I will never forget. I swear to you, if she where to show up at my door today, I'd marry her tonight. She was perfect in every way shape and form. I think about our 5 days together and I remember that when I picture myself with another girl, so far, nobody adds up to what she meant to me. It was only 5 days and we never talked again. Didn't have sex either. However, I'm thankful for those days that we had together and figure she may be married by now or have moved on in some form. It would be a disservice to her life now for me to try and interfere and it would be selfish of me as well.
Just be happy that you got to experience it, not unhappy that you can't still be in that relationship. Life is about perception.
2007-03-07 10:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to respect the fact that he has made the choice to move on with his life with someone else. As painful as it is, you need to let him go. Not to be mean, but If he wanted to be with you, he would be. Telling him you love him will only make him feel sorry for you (not a good thing) and likely you will just feel worse if you do.
Put away or get rid of everything you have that reminds you of him and get out and keep yourself busy. What ever you do don't sit at home feeling sorry for yourself. That'll just draw out the pain. Consider not contacting him until you are sure you are over him. Otherwise you will just keep reopening the wound.
2007-03-07 18:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by Coldrake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, i have been in this situation in the past and it wasnt easy.
Does he know? Im pretty sure you just want to run up to him and tell him, thats how i was with the girl that i loved. She loved me so much, but married someone else and now they have separated. We are still good friends.
It would be good to see how he feels about you, sometimes we make the wrong decisions in life and get married to the wrong person.
Go with your heart sweetie and at if its not meant to be, move on.
Good luck
2007-03-07 18:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a big believer in fate and it wasn't meant to be for you. You should move on because a better opportunity lies ahead.
2007-03-07 18:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by sunnysky4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. Now is the time and you don't have anything to lose at this point.
2007-03-07 18:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should tell him because you never know.. he might feel the same way about you.. or if he doesn't at least you will have the satisfaction of knowing that at least u tried..
2007-03-07 18:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anna D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them be. find someone better
2007-03-07 18:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋