My moms boyfriend has been in the hospital for a week now.
She had only talked to me three times...including one today...
we had been staying with my dad.she said she wanted to see us.
Now today...we were suppose to spend time with her.She called and said she would go shopping...(about an hour)then she would go back to the hospital until bedtime.Shes not working..and the whole time he has been unconcious.Whats the point of being there the whole week...not spending time with your kids...while he isnt even awake.My mom is starting to lose her head.Its weird.Im 12.She said its gonna take a long time for him to recover...Why do you think shes not seeing us?
2007-03-07 10:21:16 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2007-03-07 10:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 5⤋
I guess your Mom thinks her boyfriend really needs her around right now. Sad thing is - you're a 12 year old girl - and you are her responsibility - and you need her too!!
Talk with your Mom about it. The next time the two of you talk (and just call her if you have to) tell her how you are feeling. Tell her you understand about her boyfriend needing her right now - and how she is probably upset about him being sick - but that YOU need her too. You're a 12 year old girl - you NEED a Mom.
My opinion is kids come first. I live with a man who has a 12 year old daughter - and it's just understood that she comes first. She's his daughter - and I'm just the girlfriend. I think that your Mom is just not able to think straight right now because her boyfriend is sick. But it's just fine for you to let her know that you need her too!!
You hang in there honey! Be grateful that Dad is there for you!
2007-03-07 18:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is pretty overwhelmed by the illness of her boyfriend. You have to understand that her relationship with him is different than the one she has with you. You will move out one day and have your own family. Her boyfriend is her life. This is not so say that this is the way it should be. She doesn't even realize she has left you out. Your mom is hurt right now and not thinking right. Talk to her and tell her that you need her too. Tell her that it may be helpful for her to deal with her boyfriends illness by being with you. Just don't fight with her. She will just get more upset and hurt.
2007-03-07 18:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by Trollkepr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably pretty stressed out because someone she loves is in the hospital. I'm sure she doesn't mean to ignore you, she just has a lot on her mind right now.
I know it sucks that it feels like your mom's ignoring you but try to be patient and know that she will come around eventually.
2007-03-07 18:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by dream_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that right now she is just really scared and really sad about her boyfriend don't take it personally but make sure you tell her that u are there for her when ever she needs to talk or just someone to hold her while she cry ok
Just be there for her
2007-03-07 18:28:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think shes ignorin u i think her head is not in the right place right now b/c she is stressin b/c if he doesn't make it out of coma she will go crazy...i c that ur 12 its hard for young children or tweens to understand b/c their more into wantin the parents around but i know for a fact when or if he gets out of the coma she will try to spend some time w/ u...give it time shes stressin and when ppl stress they do things they don't normally do even w/o knowin their doin it
2007-03-07 18:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by sailormoonmei 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it seems like you mom is ignoring you, but she’s really not. With what you’re telling us she seems to really care, even love, her boyfriend. You’re her child and she will always love you, but she is dealing with something that only she understands right now. Give her time to accept what has happen, let her know that you feel like your being ignored and take it from there. Be patient with her, things will calm down.
2007-03-07 18:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by gaguyinca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that she does have more responsibilities with you! Her boyfriend is just that her boyfriend and as much as it hurts her she has to remember he's not the only who needs her. Talk to her and tell her how you feel, maybe this will make her react.
2007-03-07 18:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by xSilverStarx 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey she is just worried sick about him...give her a chance to get her head on straight and she will be back in full force as soon as she can.....she probably wants to be there when he wakes up....I don't know how I would react if the man I love was in the same shape....but I know I wouldn't love my kids any less....be supportive of her...she needs that right now....good luck
2007-03-07 18:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Erinyes 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
sounds Like you mother is worried about himand would like to be there when he wakes up.... you got give her her time and space also she may be going through a hard time even though she doesn't show it....you may need to talk to her and tell her what is on your mind that may help u both .......
2007-03-07 18:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by kidi_69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well bcs she probably concern n upset w/whatever happened 2 her boyfriend,is not dat she doesnt cares about u guys,is dat he needs her a little more right now, let her know dat u guys need her too though...
2007-03-07 18:28:12 · answer #11 · answered by don 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋