I am single for the first time in 14 years. I am 41. Before I was in my last relationship, I would meet people at bars. But now I don't really want to do that. Where do I go to meet people? I really don't have alot of friends, most are married. My man and our children were my life. Going out by myself is what I will probably have to do. Where to go? What do you think? He has already met someone else. I don't want to be alone all the time. And I know I won't meet people unless I put myself out there. I am kind of scared that I might be to old to meet someone. What do you think?
2007-03-07 10:17:21 · 8 answers · asked by Teslajuliet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, take a deep breath. Your life is not over because suddenly things have changed. Life is full of this twists and I think maybe this certain twist could be a good one, if you make it that way.
My question is, are you wanting to look for someone new because you are ready or because you are lonely? Being married with children changes you and more than likely you haven't had much time for just you in a very long time. Spend some time with your girlfriends out dancing or at lunch. Enjoy being over 40 and free! That's a luxery that only people like me have for a few years! (I'm 18). Get back in touch with yourself first before you go diving back into the sea for another fish.
If you do feel ready, then my suggestion is don't go out looking for someone, but don't sit at home and hope for mr. right to come knocking on your door. Put yourself out there and be open to anything. Go for walks in the park, attend parties or concerts, go to the gym, spend some time in a coffee shop. Presenting yourself in social situations will bring social confrontations that could result in love! Just continue your life and someday (sooner or later) the man for you will be there.
And if you simply can't wait, the wonderful world of technology has brought us websites like match.com etc. They are a good way to find someone fast with a possibility of love. Don't be afraid to try some new things and enjoy yourself!
2007-03-07 10:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by djwasasleep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that the best way to meet someone new is to stop trying. They come along when you least expect them to!
Make the most of being single again...do all those things that you never had the chance to do before. Join special interest clubs. Do classes...painting, dancing...whatever your thing is.
Once you've done that you will find you are leading a fullfilling happy life...and only when you've reached that point will you be ready to share it with someone anyway...and you will meet someone along the way as long as you are out there doing things you love to do.
Hope that helps.
2007-03-07 10:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to meet people in bars. You won't get a good pool of good options to choose from.
What you need to do is engage in activities. What do you like to do? Do you have hobbies? Are you an outdoor person? Do you like to go to museums?
You should engage in activities so that you can meet and talk with people and get to really know them.
At your age and with your responsibilities as a parent, you won't have time to go on superficial dates.
You will need to do things that give you the ability to get to really know people before you are able to date them.
In the meantime, you won't be that lonely!
You should also volunteer for charity organizations. You'll see people who are really lonely and you'll find fellow volunteers who are actually wonderful people!
Good luck (don't look for boyfriends in bars - they'll want to hook up with you and never call you again. Not good).
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2007-03-07 10:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah sure i have self belief u thoroughly, i have been given otu of a 5 year and suitable off teh bat i had this lady that became already in contact so i have been given fortunate taht the timing became there (no longer a lot anymore yet thats yet another tale)....look, what u favor to do is only start up talking im severe i dont care if u r only standin in line at ur interior sight cvs n perhaps the dude in the front of u is wonderful or sumthin discover something he's preserving or maybe he's lookin at a mag only aspect out sumthin say hi only say sumthin! yea its no longer continuously gonna come out suitable n u may look like an fool each now and then yet thats only ur lack of self belief cuz u been out the loop for see you later, now its time 4 u to construct it again up one layer at a time, as 4 ur ex no man or woman man or woman is an same so ignore abouyt that crap thoroughly and only make convo with random human beings n continuously be efficient it attracts goofd issues to you perhaps no longer suitable away n it may take a lengthy time period yet ultimately you receives ur groove again (no pun meant haha!) :)
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2007-03-07 10:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I m sorry that your relationship failed it would have been tough on you .............but life goes on ..........none likes to be single but failed relationship leading to another failed one thats what you dont want ..................chat site is good place to meet people but if u have not seen the person it can be anyone ..................... go to bars pubs just be cool...........you know like younger gals go for a mature guys .......it goes other way too......
2007-03-07 10:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by rock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give an advertisement in the marital section, in a newspaper. You can say who you are and what you are looking for, in a man.
How about that? Or look for men in the advertisements... I saw there are lots of them.
2007-03-07 10:26:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mother met her husband on Match.com when she was 50. They are very happy. Try there.
2007-03-07 10:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋