After coming home from ortho surgery, people keep coming over to see how I am. I know they mean well, but if you have ever been in the hosptial, you know there is no sleep there, and if you do, they wake you up for something. So when I got home, I was tired, in pain and not up to company for the first few days. How can you tell someone you really do not want company. Honest, as soon as one left another came and the phone rang off the hook. Am i just a meanie or has anyone else felt this frustration?
2007-03-07 10:15:58 · 10 answers · asked by vivib 6 in Health ➔ Other - Health
It is customary, but you can surely tell people you are not feeling up to it. Learn to let your voicemail take the calls. If someone stops by, just let them know you dont feel up to it, or leave a ntoe on the door letting them know when you will be awake and willing to have company. They will understand if youa re not up to company.
2007-03-07 10:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by ferrethed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you alone? What I mean is...do you have anyone else at home who is there to help out until you've recovered? If so, I'd ask them to tell visitors that you want to see people, but that you're very tired and need to rest right now.
If you're alone, then you need to tell them yourself. Hey, you aren't going to make anyone mad by telling them you're tired! They come to see you because they care...so they'll understand if you need rest.
You just say "Hey, listen...I really appreciate you coming to visit but I'm just so tired, and I really need to get some sleep." Take the phone off the hook, and rest!
Get well soon!
2007-03-07 18:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope the hell they aren't just dropping IN on you. That's just plain rude and presumptuous, especially since you just got out of the hospital. You don't have to take calls. Let your machine get it.....that's what you pay it for. You might even want to change your message temporarily. You say, just as politely as you've said it in this question. Say you appreciate their call and their concern, but due to "resting and recuperating right now" you are unable to take their call, and that if they leave a message you will call them at your earliest convenience. Maybe even put a note on your door or disable your doorbell (for those who would barge in). But recuperating is what you need to do right now.
When my husband was recovering from cancer a year and a half ago, I set up a family/friend phone tree. When any "report" was sent out, I called two people......one on my side of the family and one on his side. From there, those that I told were responsible for calling a certain number of others, who in turn were to call others. That way the whole family and friend system got the news. That saved me 63 calls. And it made for easier, more peaceful recovery, because I was busy nursing.
2007-03-07 18:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just say you dont feel like company, just honest and simple,,,, also connect an answering machine to your phone,,,,,,
i personally never minded anyone visiting me at home,,,,, but did mind in the hospital,,, i sure wasnt up for visits then! so each person is different, those visiting are most likely the type who would enjoy home visits theirselves, so just dont realize others dont , i know it took me a while and some thought to realize some people actually like visits in the hospital!
2007-03-07 18:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that the price of admission for visiting is making a meal that you can heat up and eat later and has a shelf-life of more than 2 days!
2007-03-07 18:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess they just want to show they care. My sister in law had a pretty serious surgery not long ago and I didn't visit her because I know she didn't feel good and today she called me and told me she was mad because of this. Oh well.. I'd rather be left alone too, like an injured animal, you just leave it be....unless...you're bringing food or gifts. =)
2007-03-07 18:21:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a friend or willing neighbor stay with you for an hour or two, and answer the door and telephone while you are taking a well deserved nap. I did exactly that, and my friend who welcomed all the visitors even stayed the night.
2007-03-07 18:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by HSB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a meanie, but your best move would be to let them come visit. You are right--they mean well--and telling them you don't want to see them would be rude and hurt their feelings.
Now, if you have a roommate, spouse, etc, he/she can tell people that you're asleep when you need rest. They won't think you're rude if you're sleeping.
2007-03-07 18:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by Esma 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them im really tired and i need sleep.
2007-03-07 18:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by Ha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Touche'..........I could not agree with you more. We all know that they mean well, but they fail to realize, that you need your rest; they do come in droves, don't they? lol
2007-03-07 18:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy Dearest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋