Well. A my ex will not get over me. I'm WAY over him, but he insists on trying to say hi and things. I know I said I'd be his friend, but, I can't be because. That's just the way I get over people. I have to not talk to him. And plus I REALLY don't like him, I don't even like to look at him. What should I do? I'm really rude. Not intentionally, but I kinda am mean. How do I tell him?
2007-03-07 10:12:17 · 6 answers · asked by The Random Blonde 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, he wanted to marry me. So i guess I broke his heart. How do I tell him to just get over me without destroying his life?
2007-03-07 10:14:16 · update #1
i know exactly what you mean, what is it with the obsessive ex boyfriend.
i broke up with my first love two years ago and am now with the man i want to spend the rest of my life with.
my dumb *** ex turned up at mine a little whyle ago befriended the guy that lives above me just so he could get to me, and i wasnt sure what to do at first, i knew i could never be friends with him because of the way he felt about me, and i no longer love him so it would just be awkward
the moron carved my name into his arm and threatened to kill himslef, the last time i saw him, but never did :( i hate the guy.
he told me he still loved me the other week so i just sai d look i do not love you anymore so get lost as far as i am concerned you are dead to me. i was only so harsh because he had been nasty to me before hand
the only way to get rid of them is to be perfectly blunt, who cares if they love you there an ex for a reason, and if the relationship did not end to badly just say look im sorry but i cant see you anymore, if he doesnt get the message than you must be blunt with him its the only way.
good luck x x x
2007-03-07 10:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by meow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both need to grow up a little. Have some patience and understanding. No matter what his feelings are for you, put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself how pissed and hurt you'd be if someone treated you that way.
Second, TALK TO HIM!!! Tell him the truth about how you feel, be honest. Not rude, but honest. There are a lot of ways to communicate without being rude. If you don't want to talk to him, write him a friggin letter.
Just don't be ignorant. No one deserves that, especially if you just broke his heart.
2007-03-07 18:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by Allycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More often than not guys tend to stay hooked on females, even after rejection and even down to the point of being dumped. Now, I do not particularly agree with your stance on just trying to forget about him all together. Bluntly state to him that you and him will not happen. Explain why. If you truly hate this guy, slowly dissolve him from your life. Hangout and talk with him less often. Its better that way then cutting him cold turkey.
2007-03-07 18:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you arent really over him... when you get over someone, you talk to them as if they were your friends. Unless you had a badass argue about him cheating on you or something.
Even in that case people get over it.
I cheated on my ex and now we talk on msn alot. We even come back to flitring. So you should really think if you are trully over him...
2007-03-07 18:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by remove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him NOTHING. Change your number or block his. Get a restaining order to prevent him from coming to your house or calling. That way if he does you can take action.
You are doing the right thing.
2007-03-07 18:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by txflower62 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ignore him, you said you dont like him then you dont have to force yourself on doing sth you dont wanna do . YOU ARE FREEEEEEEEE to da whatever you want as long as you don t traspass others freedom.
Best of luck
2007-03-07 18:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by kitycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋