ok... like i talk to my friends like a normal person, but that's cuz i only have known them for a while, but like i cannot like feel comfortable raising my hand in class because i'm nervous i will get it wrong or something. and everyone will laugh at me... has anyone ever been like this then grown out of it??? i'm 14 yrs old. there's this disorder i think i might have called a social anxiety disorder. what do you think?
2007-03-07 10:07:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
omg not even kidding you i have the same thing! right now. email me at cherrycola2891@yahoo.com and i can teach you ways to help overcome it.
okay.. your thing says i can email you so i will email you with my best tips.
2007-03-07 10:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by cherrycola 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, but if you had Social Anxiety Disorder it would be way more obvious and crippling. Some teachers aren't the best and it's not always safe to raise your hand in class. A good class has every answer be a good one.
There is nothing wrong with being quiet. A great man once said, "Better to be silent and thought a fool, than open one's mouth and prove it"
2007-03-07 10:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just chill and dont look at it as such a big deal. Other people in your class don't care about what you do; they are too worried that they wont make a fool out of themselves. Plus, Junior High has absolutely no significance, even 1-2 years down the road.
Case in point: one of my friends was convicted of having a foot fetish last year (one of the most embarressing things that could happen), and for a week or so he got so much **** for it that it was ridiculous. However a month or so later everyone has completely forgot about it, and he hasn't lost any friends, or any of his previous social standing.
2007-03-07 10:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by Spaceman Spliff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're just shy. It's not uncommon at 14. Try not to worry about what people think of you. The sobering fact is --they're probably NOT thinking of you. They are wrapped up in their own little world of rent, keeping their boss happy, pursuing their love interest, fighting their own demons, etc.
Try not to think about yourself, and what others may think of you. Instead, focus on ways to make the other person feel comfortable in your presence. Many people are uncomfortable, just like you, and would LOVE to be around someone that makes them feel relaxed. Focus on others and you will bloom like a flower.
Remember, life is beautiful. Demonstrate this beauty to everyone you meet.
2007-03-07 10:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by one_dog_grinning 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i just think your shy...i was that way too when i was ur age...im 17 now and have come out of my shell a whole lot.... here are some tips....don't think about what other ppl think about u...they aren't worth it...everything in the world has to be so "perfect" nowadays....i don't think so....people only make fun of people because they are insecure about themselves or just want the attention....hope this helps and if u need any other help im me and i will try to get back to u! and about the social anxiety disorder, that is something u and ur doctor need to discuss...not ppl on yahoo. good luck hun!
2007-03-07 10:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is COMPLETELY serious - this helped me when I was a freshman in college.
HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE, by Dale Carnegie.
The BEST book on the subject, because you don't do anything fake, or even all that different - you just do it better. It's not a Tony Robbins "CHANGE YOUR LIFE" kind of thing - it actually makes you more sociable, more talkative, and more interesting to other people.
Seriously. Get it. Read it.
2007-03-07 10:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be more talkative then you have to be more informative. I you want to join or start a conversation with them first you must have some knowledge about what to speak how to justify their questions. May be you may feel nervous to talk with girls. It happens to all when they speak for the first time. But there is nothing to feel nervous when you speak with boys.
Just update yourselves with the latest happenings in your school and the matters that occured in your gang etc. They are not going to slap you unless you don't use any abusive words. So just go and feel free to speak.
2007-03-07 10:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by Seenu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't think about it as a room of strangers - think about it as a room of possible new friends! Take risks sometimes - you'll be surprised that just by increasing your confidence in class will really improve your whole life!
2007-03-07 10:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you are a bit shy=just pretend it is all your friends in the room with you and answer your teacher as you are marked on social contact too
2007-03-07 10:13:23 · answer #9 · answered by caffsans 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG,
Yes I have and hate that disorder, it has taken over my life!
But guess what?
YOU HAVE TO FIGHT IT BACK!
Don't let it control you!
I am currently fighting it back, just take chances you wont die.
they will only make you stronger
2007-03-07 10:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋