Toddler question that no one has answered?

Question

I asked the same question twice, each at a different time of day, and they are both still answer-less. I know people have toddlers and have advice on how to deal with inappropriate behavior. Why hasn't anyone answered? I can't even pick a best answer. What's up?

If you click on my profile and go to my questions, they're the questions entitled "trouble with my almost 3 year old hitting, kicking and biting."

phamy76, we've been doing that for months with no improvement in his behavior.

Answer 1

what is the question? i didnt see it so i couldnt answer it

Answer 2

For the biting.... both of my boys have done this. I have tried numerous responses. When they were young, giving them some plastic toy or ring to bite on helped, probably because they were teething. I have used corner time. There are two ways that have been best: 1) When he bites, I don't punish... I just say that his mouth is now dirty and we have to clean it. I clean it with a bit of vinegar. I have used a spoon dipped in vinegar and a spritzer bottle made purely of plastic (no metal parts). The spritzer bottle is easier. I found a fully plastic one at CVS for 50 cents. 2) I also have tried to get myself in the habit of reminding my boys what acceptable behaviors are. If we are headed to a play group or somewhere we will be interacting with people they may hit or bite or push.... I talk about what things I expect them not to do and what I expect them to do. I repeat it 5 or 6 time before we arrive. This seems to really help.

I also have found that if I follow through on a threat that they are less likely to do the behavior at a later date. We were at a playdate yesterday (I had forgotten to go over the rules a head of time). My youngest hit someone, so I warned him we would leave if he did it again. He apologized, and 10 mins later he did it again..... therefore we left. He was not happy, but before bed, hours later, he remembered the incident.

GOod luck

Answer 3

maybe little ones, yet i hit upon it complicated to have self belief toddlers would be on. Many toddlers can no longer even study, and for my area, computers (exceedingly the internet) at the instant are not suitable for toddlers in any respect, and fogeys shouldn't enable their toddlers to apply them. toddlers are some million-3 years previous, by skill of how. So i assume you do advise little ones besides.

Answer 4

I have two kids of my own, and my son does the same thing with some added fits. i posted a question on here and alot of people told me to have my son tested for autism. i addressed my prblem with his doctor and they brushed it off. After speaking with other people I have decided that all kids are different and respond to different methods of discipline. Some think that ignoring bad behavior works while others say to spank. I dont agree with either. Personally, I discipline my children by explaining to them why they cant do the things they did and try to leave it at that. For instance, when my son hits, bites, or throws something at me I tell him :that;s not nice, you hurt mommy" Then I get up and walk away and not feed problem. He doesnt like me to leave him and usually stops and will come to hug me as if to say sorry. As far as potty training goes, i had a difficult time with my daughter we used two methods. First we had her teach a doll how to use the potty that way she felt important and when the doll tinkled in the potty we got excited for the doll and my daughter wanted the excitment for her too. Then when she started to use the toilet herself, she would only pee and not poop, so we put a chart up in bathroom and whenever she poop in the toilet we put a sticker up. when she got 7 stickers, she got a prize (cookie, we played a game of her choice, or went out to dinner to a place she chose). I hope this helps. and good luck

Answer 5

First of all, I want to say that I think you are a good mom for worrying so much about this problem... I have been through the biting, kicking, hitting, screaming, etc. phase of my first sons life... and I discovered something. Little children are keen on consistency. Is he getting called on for every incidence or is there a caregiver (or perhaps yourself) who lets it slide occasionally? My son was going to my grandmothers house during the day and she refused to disipline him in the way I did for his little fits and it snowballed out of control... just be sure consequences for his actions are consistent... it may help.
You also need to look into the possiblility of an attention disorder. They are most likely to surface during this age. You sound like a smart and level-headed momma, and I am sure you'll figure this one out... GOOD LUCK!

Answer 6

My son used to bite and kick. Turns out he was having trouble with people understanding him. He got frustrated. I worked with him on his speech so other kids could understand him.

Now that he's older (4) he will try to slap or hit, bite, etc when he's mad and wants to push the limits. I tell him "Do you want Mommy to hit you like you hit me?" then he goes to his room until he can calm down.

It does work, but I have had to hold the door shut (he was trying to pull it open) until the tyrade was over.

Answer 7

it's probably because no one has an answer. i usually have an answer for everything and i still can't figure out what to do. the only thing i can think of is to come up with some sort of award system or teach him some other way of dealing with his anger. i guess try giving him a penny to put in a bank every time you change him with no problems. the only way my mom got my brother potty trained was to keep a candy jar on the back of the toilet.

Answer 8

hmm probably cause many of us have that same problem and can't fix it our self's.
I have a 3 year old and a 6 year old.
my 6 year old was always the calm one. when the new boy came into our life's he was a hell raiser from the start.
as far as behavior now, umm MEAN!!!!!! time outs are useless.
I have taken away all toys when behavior problem arise... the crying is unbarable. but guess what... he don't hit people no more, and he stopped biting outta fear that I am going to give all his toys away to the garbage man.
try it for a week. If that don't help. no TV no games no NOTHING! sit in the room and cry kiddo. And if that still dont help....
Honey you are in for a long year.. good luck.

Answer 9

"No thank you Sean", and put him on time out. Works with most three year olds. Make sure you tell him why he is being isolated, and give the victum lots of love!! Children who bite need to be told what their teeth are for, " use your words not your teeth", "teeth are for eating and chewing". PLEASE DO NOT BITE BACK! So many people think this will stop this behaviour, it will actually breach trust between the two of you. Not to mention, it`s not fair, you`re an adult, who has the words to express anger!!

Answer 10

He needs to be redirected. he sounds frustrated. How are his verbal skills? can he talk good. do you listen to him or is he running around the house in charge while you watch tv. Praise him when he is being very good, when he is bad redirect him to something else and if he keeps on put him in time out for about 2-3 minutes. if he gets up you have to put him back. give him a timer so he knows when he can get up and can see the timer. you have to be firm.

Answer 11

Personally, I didn't allow that behavior from the start.

We used a time out as a tool, not a punishment.

My favorite line to my son.... ."this is not appropriate behavior.".
Then, i'd make him sit on the time out chair for 1 minute for each year olf (3 min for a 3 year old).

When the time out was done, and he was calm, we'd talk about what was unacceptable, and why. Then he would have to apologize before he could get up.


But, as for temper tantrums, We picked him up, put him on the floor in the middle of him bedroom and turned the lights out (he had a sensor night light, so it wasn't pitch black). We told him when he was calmly ready to come out, he just had to let us know.
Until then, we would ignore him.